Ellie - Congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope you're feeling well, and I know you'll feel really supported and understood here. It's a big step coming into the forum, especially when you're feeling really scared about the pregnancy, but I'm so glad you've taken the leap So glad that everything is going well for you and the baby so far - the heartbeat is the most miraculous thing!! May everything continue to go well, and you're super-sticky bub keep growing away beautifully.

Devon - congratulations on the maternity purchases!! I've found buying maternity clothes and even some baby items now really helpful for accepting and getting over the disbelief of the pregnancy. And it's perfectly normal to feel like a fraud - I really understand that feeling. I think time is really the best thing that helps that, as you start to feel more and more secure of everything continuing to progress on the path it is. It's wonderful that you know that you can have a scan for reassurance. What a lovely response from the SIL - really nice that she really gets the importance of where you're at and what you've gone through to some extent. Hope you and baby are continuing to feel well

BW - it must be very weird after all this time, all that you've been through not just TTC but healthwise to be told "OK, you're fine, now go relax - we don't need to do anything else for you". Very hard to get your head around, I'm sure! I understand that too. I think our brains get conditioned to believe that we're not capable of staying pregnant because of loss and "failure", and it correlates particularly to how much "failure" and loss you've been through. It's something that's really hard mentally to get your head around, especially when you're told you're "normal". But I've been trying to embrace that about being pregnant now. All the pieces fell into place, and now my body is doing what comes naturally. Sustaining and developing a pregnancy. Some days it's easier to feel that than others, and some days the worries are back, and other days they're not. And I'm glad that you feel more relaxed about the standard things that have been happening. I hope they help you relax, even though that mental battle will always be hard.

Miss C