Thanks again everyone.

Nixon, I think it was you who asked how DH is- he's obviously really upset also and a bit angry and bitter too.
Having said that, we deal with these things very differently, and it does sometimes make it hard for me. He doesn't say much about how he's feeling, or express much, and i am very emotional and a big talker. So sometimes I feel a bit isolated and separate from him, even though I know he hurts too and is also upset to see me so upset. Plus, he doesn't get as upset as I do...I think it's different when you are the woman and the baby is inside you. He is more able to recover quickly and move on (we experienced this with our earlier loss this year and also during IVF).
Can any of you relate to this...? It would be easier for me if he was crying alongside me.