Possums, miscarriages always effect women much more than men. After our third, I got into a huge fight with DH (BG may remember me summoning her from bed at around 1am in absolute hysterics afterwards!) because I had a huge go at him about not caring. I'd just lost another baby, and he was happily continuing on as though life wasn't different... When all was said and done and we were calmer, he explained that in the early stages it's just not "real" to him. Our first was a bit more real as he'd seen a flickering speck on an ultrasound screen, but the next two we lost before we even got to a scan. Even this baby had very little sense of reality to him until I began to show and he could feel movement from the outside.

Perhaps it may be worth letting him know that you realise that he can't fix this for you, but sometimes you just need him to listen and give you a hug and let you cry... Being clear on what you need from him will help you work through this together.

BW