Ladies - your thoughts please!
My sister, who lives in Europe and I am not particularly close to has made little effort in keeping in touch or asking about my 1st IVF miracle who is now 16 months (she didn't send her so much as a Christmas or 1st birthday card this year). My sister is two years older than me and got pregnant her first month of trying (my 1st month of trying IVF for #2). She just had her baby and named her son the name my DH and I have wanted to call our son if we have one for as long as I can remember (she didn't know it was our name, so it wasn't deliberate). I told my Mum and Dad right away and both of them said it was just bad luck and I'll have to think of another name (although my Mum cooled a bit when she realised I was serious about the name) The one friend who I told (who has a nephew herself with the same name so knew she was safe to tell as she has already told me her boys names!) said I should call him what I want as my sister has nothing to do with my life in Australia as none of my friends have ever met her (she's lived overseas for almost 15 years). I know I should be really happy for her, but I am really ****ed off. I don't have another name, and feel like any name we are forced to pick would never be the name I want but the main issue is that it's my DH's choice of names for his boy and he doesn't want to change it for someone who he's had nothing to do with and who he's not seen make any effort with our DD. We don't even know the sex of the baby, nor if it's OK yet as we have yet to have our 12 week scan, but this is driving me a bit crazy!

Can't ask many people their thoughts on this - so would appreciate any advice.
xxx