Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 2011

[dory]

Possums - what an excellent effort at persies.... and I couldn't have said it better about labour.... we all find our own zone.... and Forshelby will be fine, she will find hers. I found the gas yukky, which surprised me. I want to try TENS next time. Congrats on being the most pregnant-est you've been since DD... that's awesome. I know it's hard at this stage when you don't really feel or look UTD. But you have a secret and special time with little peach right now... its just you and peachy and no -one else. That is soooo cool. You'll be an excellent mum to 2 or more..... some say it gets easier after 1!

Alish - I am with Possums - if you're flying most airlines won't fly you as you're to preg, but I would recommend you call to check, and if you travel by other mean car, bus or train - that's a long uncomfortable journey and then if the wee one is already here, sometimes in the baby moon phase things that seemed important to you before, just aren't anymore as you fall madly in love with that precious bundle that you have been entrusted with. Once when I was all betwixt and between about something one of my work colleagues said to me, rather bluntly but it got the message across... " it's not just about you anymore". I needed to hear that to just shift my focus.

Has anyone tried an EPI- NO - I think that what it's called - a little device that you insert into the vay vay jay ( I am trying to recall Ferrals word for it... and I know I didnt get it right) to try and stretch the perineum? Just curious if you have and what you thought and whether it worked.

[alish]

hi possum! how are you going??

thanks dory & possum - we were always going to drive up - dh dosent like renting cars & for the price it would cost to drive to melb & airfares & car rental its probably cheaper to drive!
i would never be going if i was overdue.. its just a hard situation to predict, only cuz u cant!
i feel bad cuz we missed their dd christening & their engagement and they are really good friends of ours, we used to live together when we were up on the goldy!

but youre right dory, i need to think about baby, and it probs wont be the best time to travel so we probably wont go, maybe we could go up for a little holiday once baby is abit older, im sure they will understand!

eeek no more sleeps! we r soo excited! just hope everything is ok!

dory - ive never tried it or heard of it, why do u need to stretch it? lol im pretty dumb about womens stuff!

im not sure if ill have time to jump on bb and tell you how i went as we are supposed to be going camping this afternoon, but i will try.. so if not i hope you all have a wonderful friday & saturday and i will chat to you soon! xxx

[ferrals5]

Alish-good luck today although you wont need it you will do great and bub will be perfect.

Forshelby-I have had my moments of feeling moody and generally crappy and snappy then for some reason i just think about how lucky we are to have Ella on the way and what a miracle she is we won lotto and i snap myself out of it i can never ever say how life sux and why me again after what we have gone through and that puts a smile on my face and a spring in my step MY GIRL IS HEALTHY!

Possum-enjoy the room to move and try not to worry it wont be long before you cant breath properly cant bend cant get comfortable and have feet and knees and a little bum stuck under your ribs.

Dory-it wasnt me who referred to the epi no thats the little balloon thing to stretch your woohaa out no way would i use one i used olive oil with my 1st son and massaged the perineum and i have not had a single stitch with all my kids just grazes but i had little babies i wonder how i will go with little miss if she is going to take after her dad and i think she will be bigger than her brothers.
My referrence was to the u/s probe (the dildo cam) that we all love so much ewww.

AFM-I woke up this morning and a thought just popped into my head i will have a daughter to bring home within the next 4 weeks a newborn baby girl after 13 years and 3 teenage boys i am so excited i am doing this again pinch me please is it real is my dream coming true?

[Mildez]

Yeap your dream is coming true Ferrals definately. Just think it could very well only be 2weeks away (well that makes you term anyhow) I'm so excited for you and everyone else of course especially the March mummies as I'll be following shortly afterwards lol At 33weeks I still feel its ages away but I look at your ticker and your only a fortnight in front and think woow it wont be far away now. Actually its less then a month until I am term.

Alish thinking of you at your scan today but like Ferrals I think everything will be perfect.

How is our most pregnant lady Forshelby going today? Are you all ready for bubs grand entrance?

Not much to report from my end. A day of cleaning. I'd love to go through bubs things but DH will be in and out all day so I'll have to wait until I know he is away all day.

[kellbell]

Ferrals its so real look at that gorgeous little face in your ticker - shes so close now

Rasberry leaf tea is supposed to make your contractions more productive - something like that. i never took it with ella but hoping for a better birth this time. What are some good books i can read someone mentioned some before but i can find the names of them now.

Im two weeks after you Mildez thats scary!!!!

Good luck alish with your scan today - it will be great im sure. i love the 12 week scan so so cute

Possum magic i agree on seeing the newborn bassinet it was so real that i was going to have a baby in it and i was going to have to push it out i can still remember that feeling.

Dory - Cant believe your Hannah is 5 months already. Ive never heard of that strecthing thing. Wonder if it works. I hope my ella has strected it enough for her brother lol

Forshelby what do you reckon your having? i reckon a little boy. How are your blood sugars going?

sorry to everyone i have missed. Ella has had enough of me on the computer time togo

[dory]

Alish - thinking of you today... I am with Ferrals - no luck needed - your bubs will be gorgeous and healthy and you will be so excited that your feet won't touch the ground....GL camping. Oh, the perineum is the bit between the vay vay jay and your bot.. the short bit underneath in the nether regions. Some have the theory that if you massage it or use the epi no to stretch it there is less chance you'll need stitches. My Obs said that

Ferrals - yep dream come true, in no time at all you'll be enjoying your baby moon where apart from being an awesome mum your main job will be to just gaze at the perfection that is your little girl, and smile with pure joy. The epi no is basically to stretch the perineum, similar to massage. One of the ladies in my ante natal class bought one $180.... Glad you've never needed stitches or an episiotomy.

Mildez - you are so good cleaning. I think I am brilliant for hanging out one load of washing, putting another on, doing a little tidying and now resting.... why do you have to wait for Dh to be away all day to do bubs things? Look at you 33 weeks! Awesome.

Forshelby - I am with Mildez - oh glorious pregnant one! Hope the cooler weather is helping. Give that bump a big belly rub for me.

[forshelby]

Ferrals - I forgot to respond to you last night..... I was EXACTLY the same during my 1st af. I cried and cried and asked mum if it was always so gross. (also only 11) Then my older sister came to the rescue with a pack of tampons. I've never looked back, lol. I think your perspective is awesome when it comes to snapping out of a crappy mood. I should be the same, really....... I'm taking this baby home! I think the fear of the unknown is getting to me a bit. I've never brought a baby home before. I should just relax... I have 3 nephews, a niece and an adopted niece..... plus 3 younger cousins. I have been around plenty of babies in my time. That's what I'll tell myself. 'Been there, done that... I just get to keep this one'. Oh, and *PINCH* yep, it's real.

Alish - LOL, yeah we get a bit crazy in here sometimes. No our car isn't a turbo, and it's silver..... but wow, pretty similar anyway! We stumbled across ours at the car auctions when we were 'just looking' and I instantly sold my car to get it.. lol. We're actually considering selling again though as it's quite expensive to maintain (as I'm sure you know........) and it really guzzles the juice. I'm not sure if you should be travelling all this way up to the GC a week before your due date either..... sorry! I assume you'd be driving?? Sounds a bit scary to me but I'm a worrier... hehe. good luck for today!!!!!!!!

Possum - Thanks for the advice. Funnily enough, in my panicky state I forgot about everything I read which does say your mind kind of shuts down to a certain extent, so I'll just hold onto that knowledge to comfort me, hehe. I have actually read the book called 'active birth'. Maybe I should give it another going over.... So good to hear everything is peachy with your little peach, hehe. I remember wishing I felt more pg, and just dying to be HUGE and pg....... now I'm kind of missing the days of being slim and trim and having my body to myself! Can't win, eh?

Mildez - Ooooh I got a little shiver when you called me the most pregnantest, lol. I am feeling a bit out of sorts still, kind of queasy, but hungry at the same time (reminds me of the 1st trimester) and DEFINITELY ready to get this baby out. Since you're in the mood for cleaning will you come and sweep my floors???? Please? I'm pathetic and huge and whimpering over here for some help... lol.

Kellie - I still have no idea really........ DP says he'd like a little girl because he can picture me braiding her hair and painting her nails and making her all cutesy.. lol. For a while I thought maybe a boy, but all my dreams have started to be about baby girls now, so I'm totally confused. My blood sugars have been really good, actually. I know I shouldn't be annoyed about that, but every time I have to ***** my finger for a sample, and I get a perfectly normal reading I think 'THIS IS STUPID AND POINTLESS'. lol. It only really goes above normal (by a tiny smidge) when I drink cordial, or if I forget to buy a diet softdrink when I have a fizzy craving.

Dory - LOL, yes everyone worship my glorious pregnant bump. Last night when I was getting ready for bed in my stylish bra and undies, DP looked at me and said 'Man, your belly is massive'. Hahaha. A couple of his workmates saw me too as I dropped him off in the morning and also commented on how huge I am now. I guess they haven't seen me since I was slim and trim when I worked there too, so it must be a shock for them. But yes, I am enjoying the slightly cooler weather, it's especially nice at night time. I'll be sure to give my bump a big rub in your honour lol.

AFM - So I logged into facebook this morning to see what was new. And was SHOCKED to see my old boss has posted publicly on my wall trying to chastise me for my 'comments' about my baby shower. UM, EXCUSE ME, B***H?! How dare she judge me for being p................. off. She was one of the ones who didn't even bother to respond to my invite, so I assume this is her guilty conscience talking. I told her in no uncertain terms that I wasn't impressed by her intrusion, and that I will feel how I want, say what I want and BOLLOCKS to them. (worded much more elegantly of course.) I'm still just blown away she thought she had the right to 'tell me off' for feeling upset and disappointed! Typical of her though really, she always was patronizing, and when I had my mc, she expected me at work the very next day. She also told me it 'wasn't meant to be', and that 'there was probably something wrong with it so you wouldn't have wanted it anyway'..... oh and the best one? 'That's nothing. My sister had 5 mc's before she brought home a baby'. All this was told to me while I sat and cried hysterically in her office. Yeah. I'm sure you're all thinking of some choice swear words right now.

Anyhoo I'm so irritated by this I'm going to have a lie down for a bit and try to forget about her. In other news, I got stuck in bed last night when I needed to pee because my belly was sore. I think I woke up in the middle of a BH, because I couldn't get up on my own without squealing a bit... lol. DP luckily didn't hear me, I tried to be quiet. For a minute there I thought I might have to wake him to get him to roll me out of bed.

[ferrals5]

Forshelby-How dare your old boss i would have told her where to go you have every right to be p#ssed off.
And i have to roll out of bed to my belly just dosnt like me hopping up to quick i get these horrible ligament pains or muscle pains if i do so i roll out of bed or DH has to help me up never had this trouble with my 3 boys little miss ella might not be so little after all.

[Mildez]

Forshelby I'd happily sweep your floors although I think there is probably over 1000kms between us however. Sweeping that is one job I can do with ease. Now vacuuming and mopping on the other hand is another story!

Dory I can't do bubs things with DH around as DH doesn't know bub is a girl and most of my stuff is pink. It would be an instant given away.

[ferrals5]

I can breath Ella has finally dropped or engaged her little butt is no longer wedged under my ribs i hope that means the placenta has moved out of the way.

[Mildez]

Ferrals great news. I wonder if this means she will arrive in the next 2-3weeks on her own (provided placenta is out of her way of course) I'm just wondering as I've had 2 people comment saying I've dropped and when I mentioned it to DH he said he thought I had to and now I am peeing atleast 2times a night sometimes up to 6 and my fundus is definately several cms lower then what it was. I dropped with no1 at 36weeks and no2 I can't remember. Time will tell I guess when our little girls will arrive. I told DH our bub will be here on 19th March if she does what her sister did and he freaked out lol. Were so not ready and thats only 21days away.

[Hope!]

I can't keep up with you all, so sorry.

Just letting you know that I am still here. Had the stitch taken out on Tuesday and still hanging in there. Playing the waiting game now.

Hope you are all well.

[alish]

hi everyone!
scan went great! baby is correct size & heart is beating perfect! baby was jumping around in there, we even got to see its hand and fingers when we got a little wave! im so in love already!

yeah i think we are going to pass on the wedding! oh well!

yay ferrals, glad she moved!!

forshelby - that woman needs a headbutt! what a d*ckhead!!

dory - ahh i see! haha i might ask dh to massage it for me :P

yuck how long do the headaches last for??? its starting to bug me!

sorry for anyone ive missed! xxxxxxxx

[angelfish]

alish~Congrats on the good US.

AFM ~ i am so done with winter here got another 12 inches of snow. In the am i was actually able to take a shower while Honor slept there was pounding on the door go check and it was the landlord yelling at me how i have to move two cars Honor woke up in a bad mood crying the bf was still on hour from being home from getting his lovely children he had been gone all night and honor had a bad night

[dory]

Hope - phew.... last stages of your amazing journey of pregnancy with twins and on the cusp of the next part..... hope you go into spontaneous and a quick labour and get those darling little ones out and enjoy your new born cuddles. How was the stitch removal for you?

Alish - AWESEOME for your scan, and honestly you've made the best choice about the weddding... I know it's hard.... I have missed so many important things like that in the last two years... always seemed that I was in the middle of a high risk time of my pregnancies...... and it was sad to miss them, but in my heart I knew I was doing the best thing I could.

Angel - oh bugger for crazy landlords and 12 inches of snow and then bad nights.... it does get better!

Ferrals - yay for Ella dropping.... it is so nice to have the pressure off the ribs and lungs.

Mildez - OMG - in 3 weeks that would be 36 weeks gest. Wow.

Kell - how are you going? Not working as much this week?

Forshelby... oh the waiting, it's sort of fun, but sort of not huh? Uhm about your boss? She is obviously just small minded and you can rise above her pettiness. Be the bigger person and let her wallow in her misery... you are so much more than she is.

TegamM - hope your camping trip is going ok.

T- Hopes - did I tell you I love your avvy?

Reet - is your man home yet? Give Yogi a big cuddle for me. Hannah is so cute with the cats - she just about wriggles out of her skin when she sees them and breaks into the biggest grin. I am not sure they share the same joy yet... lots of tail pulling and eye poking before they will feel the love I am guessing. LOL. Fun times ahead. My cousin is a telco rigger too. It's amazing what they do.

AFM - I am sooo totally in love with Hannah. This is truly a journey into love. It is simply the best and worth all the hard and uncertain times. There is nothing better than just being with her and watching her... I think I will tell people my occupations now is "baby gazer". She had a swimming lesson yesterday, and is now actually starting to try to hold on to the edge of the pool, rather than having her hands clenched up and resting on the edge. It is just amazing. And she had lots of laughs and smiles yesterday too, even though she has a head cold. Pity I am coming down with it too. Oh well.

Belly rubs to anyone I have missed, as you know it's not intentional.

[Hope!]

Hope - phew.... last stages of your amazing journey of pregnancy with twins and on the cusp of the next part..... hope you go into spontaneous and a quick labour and get those darling little ones out and enjoy your new born cuddles. How was the stitch removal for you?

I'm hoping that is what happens also. I guess we will just have to wait and see. I can't remember exactly, what term did you get your stitch out? I remember that you held on for a while afterwards. The stitch removal was quite uncomfortable. I had it taken out in my OB's rooms, not the hospital. Glad that part is over anyway.

[damprye]

Sorry if I have been missed. Having a lot of issues atm so will not be on until they have been resolved.

[dory]

Hope - Obs wanted to wait til 38 weeks... maturity he said.... but with twins most twins are delivered by 37 weeks so I can understand why yours woul come out... now it's just the waiting game.... be patient my friend, your time will come and it will be glorious.

Damprye - Sorry I missed you in the round up.... sorry that things are not going well. Thinking of you and hoping to hear from you soon.