The Pixie,
Your step mum sounds great! Can I adopt her? Must admit this isn't just about the pregnancy. Mum has been like this about anything in my life that she doesn't share an interest in herself. We had horses together for years and if it wasn't for that I think we would be strangers! She is just a big kid that goes through fad's. She is just not naturally maternal, never has been. And to be honest she had a horrible childhood and her parents were drunks. So she probably didn't learn anything from them. I think I am maternal, but it comes naturally to me cause I sure didn't learn it from my parents.

I cant really rely on my MIL cause my SIL is a very jealous person and she likes to be the center of attention all the time. Although she seems to be very positive about the baby and even wants to throw me a baby shower. But my MIL have joined a gym together and we hang out there together and keep it quiet from her daughter cause she will get upset that we are hanging out so much. It's terrible that we have to hide behind her back just to prevent a scene. Although she is 27 years old. Its a strange thing, but she caused a scene once when we got caught doing grocery shopping together. It was embarrasing the way she behaved in the shops. So you see its hard to rely on MIL cause she has to give her daughter number one priority as she should and well unless my SIL grows up all of a sudden, its always going to be something that keeps me from really relying on MIL for support. So that is always in the back of my mind. I am hoping a new baby coming into the family might make everyone get their priorities right but again I think that expectation is way too high!