I think alot of problems in relationships comes from unknown expectations.
My mum died when I was 27 and would have been a great Nana, even with the 700km distance - I wouldn't have been able to get rid of her. My dad remarried when I was 6 months preg so that was his life - and my stepmother has a daughter who has 1 child, and is expecting her 2nd a month after this bubba comes, so I know I won't see them or get a visit unless we go home at Christmas time.
My bestie here - her mother has moved down 12 months ago from Sydney to be here for my friend - and at times it drives me insanely jealous - she has just had another baby and her mum picks her other daughter up and takes her to and from school cos bub feeds - she said - otherwise her daughter will turn up messy hair, teeth not brushed - and I said - like my kids will later this year and next year?? I regretted it but wanted her to realise how much her mum does and to not take it for granted. I don't have any other family here, and try not to dwell on it - it is just the way it is.
Only advice really is to reassess your expectations, and why you have them. I definitely don't mean to sound harsh, but just because we are pregnant, doesn't mean the world stops - KWIM??
Yeah your right. My friends parents died when she was 17 and she gets by. But I can tell you I will be there for her as much as I can if she gets pregnant. Cause I couldn't imagine having no parents at all. So I guess I should stop complaining and be grateful for what I have even if it is not what I expected.
Thanks for bringing me back down to earth!
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