Puppies,
your mum and my mum sound like they were hatched from the same egg,im not making excuses for my mum she is a bipolar sufferer and i think it has impacted on her life somewhat,she never really has been there for us either,her partner always came first.
Though she does do nice things out of the blue and the other day sent me a money order for $100 to go buy myself some sexy maternity clothes as she puts it with a really lovely card(i cried when i got it cos im not just used to it)i think a alot of it is the baby boomer generation and they feel like they done their job and wanna live their own lives and most can be quite selfish(not all ladies im not saying everyones mum)my MIL is still coming to terms shes gonna be grandma for the 1st time,shes an older Italian lady and very old school,but in the same token shes been making me stuff and says i dont want interfere,your baby and times have changed but im sure as the day gets closer some may change their tune,im not even expecting my mum to even come to visit me in hospital(she hates them,ie the whole hospitalisation with her mental illness)hates travelling long distances in car(she 2 hours or so away)nobody to look after animals etc etc so you get my picture,hell ive lived in my new house for 3 years and shes never been here..sad but we just gotta deal with it,i vowed and so did DH we will never be the parents that ours were..
cheers bon