How involved is your mum in your pregnancy?

[Ozziehoffy]

to you puppies. My mum wasn't involved at all. I didn't really expect it though, so it wasn't a shock, although it still niggled at me sometimes. There was ONCE she said oh I guess I should take you shopping and get a car seat or something then huh. I told her not to bother...lol. She's more involved when she sees Oskar now though, but that still holds a sore point for me cos she hardly did anything with Joshua at the same age - go figure!!

Anyway, I don't know what to say that may help. Could you possibly tell her a little how you are feeling? Another for you, hope you feel better.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

My mother did buy some things for DS - while I did appreciate things like the moses basket, bedding for the cotbed I'd bought and changetable, I didn't appreciate being made to change my mind over the bedding I wanted because it wasn't "cute enough" or "colourful enough" for a baby. I wanted soft pastels, not bold jungle animals!

But supportive involvement all went to my cousin. My mum did her gardening even! MiL was nice and friendly, but she had a granddaughter already so was more involved in her. My mother also told me I wasn't as big as I should be, I didn't feel kicks when we'd SEEN the things, that I didn't want to do breastfeeding, cloth nappies, co-sleeping or demand feeding, let alone look after my DS when he cried... She just seems to be the polar opposite parent to me. Which has caused more distance between us because I'm doing it "wrong"... personally, I want my DS to love me and WANT to spend time with me, not remember a mummy always too busy for him with cleaning or other people. I think it makes you a better person not having Mummy run around after you, but that's my biased opinion.