Emma,
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us all.

My partner and I decided not to have the 12 week scan, as we had decided prior to falling pg that we would keep a baby with Downs - so like you... what is the point of having tests? (I do need to have the 19 week test or they will not admit me to the Birthing Centre - but it is to see if I can have a natural birth, not for Downs)

You mentioned that you were not offered the test at 12 weeks, I think those who are offered this test at 12 weeks or at any time, first need to know what they would do should the test be Positive. What are they willing to do. If they know they will terminate, that is fine, but if they are sure that they would not terminate, then don't have the test (unless you want to be "prepared" for a child with Downs?).

Your story has affirmed everything I have believed in (which has been frowned upon by my friends) - so thank you again so much for sharing... I understand that this has been an incredably difficult time for you... I hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnacy and have a beautiful, happy, healthy baby.