hun, i completely understand that you're close to your mum - esp if you and DP are still living with her. you obviously have a good relationship, mum respects where you're at in life (don't i wish!), and you're entitled to make that choice

it sounds to me like your DP's family are a rather toxic bunch - you want to welcome your baby into a warm and loving environment - and i agree, no unsupervised visits - if she can't respect you and your wishes with you standing there, i doubt it would be any different when you're not around

yeah, you're young, and you've got lots to learn (hell, i'm a lot older than you, and i'm still cr@pping myself about being a mum for the first time) - the main thing you need to learn (and it seems you're well on your way) is that YOU are the mother, YOU are responsible for your child, and nothing anyone else says or does can change that. tell the IL's to go to hell! they are the ones losing out - they'll miss out on seeing their grandchild grow up - and they'll lose a relationship with their son (who sounds like a rather strong and independent 18 year old!)

good luck

BG