Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts ladies! I totally get how some of you think that I might be being a little OTT, particularly if you're used to having a partner who travels or is away a lot. In my case, I'm very lucky that DH is rarely away, maybe a couple of times a year for two or three days. So, I'm used to having the luxury of having him around to help me out on a day to day basis. But always manage fine when he goes to.

If this was my first pregnancy and I only had me to worry about, I wouldn't bat an eyelid. But I've got an energetic 2.5 year old to look after too, and I'm already starting to notice how the physical implications of being pregnant are making the day to day harder and harder. Just catching him or picking him up to change his nappy, get him in the car or the bath is becoming harder. I'm not sure how I will be going physically at 35 weeks. Last time round I had awful sciatica, which thankfully has stayed away so far, but if I get it this time I don't think I could manage 5 days on my own. In the last month I've also had two episodes of extremely painful BH which have scared me a little...

Do you have anyone who could come and stay for 'holiday' with you whilst he is away? Or like pp has mentioned book in some extra care and help for the time he is away?

I would worry that missing such an acknowledgement would be seen as a negative from his work's POV as well as being something he should celebrate ITMS.
Unfortunately, we really don't have anyone who can come stay. All of DH's family is in the US, as is my sister who has 2 kids of her own. All of my friends have babies or toddlers of their own to juggle, and the couple who don't are living in London which is way too far to come back for. But, I do think the suggestion of seeing if I can get one of the carers from CC to help up is a great idea - thanks! I may even see if I can tee one of them to be 'on call' over the weekend just in case.

Until the other day when the rankings came out, DH was planning on missing the trip this year (it happens every year and he has gone along the last couple of years). But given his achievement, he really wants to go to accept his award, which I totally understand. I (and DH really don't think anyone would bat an eyelid if he didn't go). It really is pretty much 3 days of partying and having fun, as opposed to a 'professional' type thing IYKWIM?

Besides think of the duty free he can bring back for once bubs is here, and the power of having the "I cant believe you left me here all by myself to go on a trip to Singapore when I was 35wks pregnant" card over him is HUGE

Im thinking foot rubs on demand for a month is the bare minimum!
Hadn't thought of that... And I do love a good foot rub!

My husband values his testicles too much to even think about leaving me in that situation.
But in all seriousness... If it were us we would probably find a way where I could come too. Is that possible?
I don't think I will be allowed to fly at that point. And, TBH the idea of dragging DS over there so we can hang out in a hotel room for 5 days while DH is off having a wild time doesn't really appeal.

At this stage, I don't think I have reason to say no. It's all what if's right now. I've told DH that I want him to go and that he should accept, but that we might have to reevaluate it a week or two before if I'm not doing so well physically, and he is fine with that. At the end of the day, I know that if there was an emergency and I needed to go to hospital there are a lot of people who I could call to help. What I will lack is that day to day help (which normally wouldn't be an issue), but I think I will try and organise a babysitter to help out for a few hours here and there.

Once again, thanks for sharing!