this morning i did feel i could chat with this child and see their expenses because i dont beleive it will be half the youth allowance maybe a quarter. maybe she jsut wants driving lessons and a bit of pocket money. she is not troubled like other of my kids, though my mother who meddles and encourages people working against me can be, but even in this situation i was shocked that when i went in person to talk to my mum she didnt seem as cruel and unreasonable as she usually does. she jsut kept on repeating how overloaded she feels because she is paying for a solicitor for another family member, and she really cant afford that , so bits that a grandma may usually give for a grandchild she feels she cant do and wants more pressure on me, even though my sitaution is worse than the one of the relative she is paying for a solicitor for.

anyway i think i will chat and see the expenses and perhaps driving licence expenses and a bit of pocket money some occasional waxing and mecines is what she needs and it probably is not half of the youth allowance, and if it is at least i can see what the expenses they say they have are. i think this child is much less troubled and difficult than others have been, she hasnt been through hell the others went through from their dad , so maybe we can work out soemthing fairer.