I think you have reasonable expectations of XP and he is not conforming.

The question is, where are his priorities? He seems to be prioritising "him-things" over "you-things" or "us-things".

The real question is, who is putting into this "relationship" ? Seems a lot one-sided to me. Do you want your son to grow up thinking that Daddy walking all over Mummy is normal, or good?

I think you know in your heart that this is not going to work. He's getting what he wants and needs out of the relationship. Where do you get your wants and needs met? Certainly not by him.

On another note - If you don't like your psych, find another one. I usually find females work better for me, personally.

Just my opinion.