Widdly, firstly I think a saying I was told at the right time needs airing again.

"Kids would rather come from a broken home than live in one."

One thing you said resonated very very loudly with me...
I want him to want to do things i want to do sometimes.
I have said something similiar to my DH at times. Its not about doing it to make me happy - its about wanting to do it. Wanting to do something with me, who cares what it is. Hell, I go fishing because I want to go with you, I would like when I have the sudden urge to go window shopping or for a walk that its taken seriously - not done reluctantly much later to "keep me happy" because that just destroys the whole experience.

I just felt it was important for this little feeling to be validated. Many people may see it as petty or unreasonable - but its not. I am not asking for him to fall in love with random walking with no destination or reason - but I do want him to love spending time with me. If it was about being with me, then what we do shouldn't matter that much that it always has to be something he likes to do. If he liked to see me happy then he would want us to do stuff I like to do too. If it was about us, then it wouldnt be a problem...

My DH has since come around thankfully - still doesnt get that I don't like shopping alone, but he at least understands now that it isnt always just about him and when I say I would like to go out somewhere - I really NEED to get out of the house.

Its all very basic stuff. If your XP isn't getting it....