Thanks so much for all your replies, you have no idea how much it means to me at the moment, so this is where we are at now.

XH (wow first time) saw his superintendent this afternoon and there is a 8 wk cooling off period before they can look at getting him a house. XH thinks that it will be all ok for him to stay here and doesn't see the issue. I have told him and cried that he must leave and stay with a friend. It is not healthy to be living under the same roof in a small remote town for that long. He said he will sort it out tomorrow.

I have started looking for a solicitor on the net but will have to start calling tomorrow. Anything I should be wary of? Questions I should ask them?

I will call centrelink and find out where I go from here and if I am entitled to anything.

I've been pretty upset this afternoon. I don't want to stay here in the same small town as him. I can't bare the thought of having to leave DD with him at any point for custody arrangements. Have been looking for jobs but there isn't much going for me at the moment. I can't believe I didn't apply for jobs in NSW less than 2wks ago because we made the decision that I wouldn't be going to work for another year yet. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

I have been thinking that I need to pay out and sell or handback the lease car (in my name) - what a waste of last 2 years!! grrr and then just get myself another smaller cheaper car. But then not sure if I should get another car because what if I can escape and head back east?

Financially and work wise it is best for me to stay here but emotionally and mentally I don't think it is. Although it is only early days so perhaps once XH has got his house I will go East for a bit to stay with my parents.

I'm really concerned that my milk supply will go thru stress. So I'm feeding frequently. Any ideas with regards to this?

I'm devestated about the lies he is/will tell people. But at the same time I think who cares what it takes for him to be gone, then I get upset that he wil never be gone, he will always be around

I'm cranky because he is going to see the counsellor too. Well I'm glad because he should, but cranky that he wouldn't ever (in the past) give counselling a go to help our relationship, now he is only doing it for himself since the superintendent suggested it.

I am so scared of the future. Wondering how I will be financially secure enough to provide for DD. I have been very financially secure in the past but I mean at the same time as giving DD her me time and love and care that she needs and deserves.

Anyway I'm off to my friends for dinner. She will be my saviour in this town through all of this.

Thanks again for everything xx