and I only browsed over the answers above, but I saw someone say not to chase after happiness. I think they are wrong. Happiness for yourself is the best thing you can look for in life. its a cut throat world we live in, you have to learn to be selfish. I'm a little confused about XH and the other guy and all that's going on in your head. But really JUST PUT YOU FIRST!
Just wanted to say that I strongly disagree with the above... but don't need to debate about it Am prepared to agree to disagree.