am so glad to hear that you and baby are doing well! and i'm glad that bub's father has decided to be a man and step up. honey, just a word of warning: be careful! you have to look after you right now because everything you feel baby feels. i made that mistake with my bub's father. he has done some truly unforgivable things but seems to want to make amends now bub is almost here. i'm just not interested, and i'm glad that i've been able to get to the point that he is not important. i really hope that this is different for you and that your baby's father is being supportive and thinking about your and baby's wellbeing.
just remember that you have made the best decision for you. it is not important what your friends do or say and frankly if they aren't speaking to you on account of your being pregnant then i wouldn't count them as friends. friends stand by you no matter what, they might tell you they think it's not what they would've done if faced with the same predicament, but they will always be your friends and support you through your decision. that's what real friends should do in any case. and if they don't then if they are a true friend they will know that they've done something cruel and will eventually apologise and ask your forgiveness. that's how i know that my ex has never been a true friend. he has not once apologised for anything that he has done. and yet has somehow created this fantasy that everything's okay now because his gf has decided that i'm not a threat after all and he can try and make good by saying that we should make an agreement, or give me a whole pile of baby clothes to my friend to give to me, or that him (and her) want to visit baby, but not at my house, has to be in a park somewhere because he's "not comfortable" coming to my house. b******. i'm "not comfortable" with his gf seeing my baby.
sorry about the bitter rant hun. he's just been making my life miserable the last couple of days. getting his sister to contact me to dig for him etc. is just getting ridiculous. i told him to back off, so instead he uses underhand methods to find out things. with one week to go lol, he's cutting it fine. suddenly he wants to be a dad. well i'm not having a bar of it. baby will not be available to him unless he comes to me for some weeks. however baby will be going to see his greatgreatnana as its not every child who has a greatgreatgrandparent, and she's in the south island so will have to jump on a plane to do that lol. midwife was awesome though and said just remember to have him on the breast for take off and landing, so his ears don't pop. wouldn't have ever thought of that!
but yes. sorry am totally prattling now! i hope your finger gets better soon and you enjoy your holiday with baby's father (if you go). just remember to look after you and baby first and foremost! you two are the most important things right now! no one else is important!
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