Dee, your ex sounds like a right boofhead!

Reading this thread, I'm glad that exP lives on the other side of the country, hopefully it'll stay that way!

I just had a big emo about leaving him, having had the realization the person I fell in love with isn't the person he is now. I actually feel better now, having sorted things out in my head and had a good cry (though i'm not so sure i'm finished yet!) It honestly feels like I'm mourning the death of the person he used to be, rather than grieving the end of the relationship. Which is better, I think. I couldn't have gotten away from this ******* fast enough but I still care deeply about who he USED to be. That's totally good with me because it means I have no temptation whatsoever to give into his manipulative attempts to guilt me into getting back together with him.