I hate to sit here thinking about all these things when Grandmum is still alive. I feel like I have written her of kwim? But I also know when the time does come I won't be in any state to think properly
You're so right Nic, this is something you NEED to be prepared for. Also if this is the first time your boys will lose someone close to them, the way you handle it is going to impact on their whole lives.

Death is a fact of life, by being open about it and allowing them the chance to discuss it and be open about their feelings you're setting them up to be more self-assured people, who don't fear death because they have, from a young age, had the chance to understand and discuss it.

you must be having such a hard time yourself. You're not writing anyone off, you're allowing your children to prepare for something potentially very difficult and thus arming them with much greater ability to cope.

I understand how you felt about your Grandfather, my brother felt the same about Mum and he was there when she died, and like i was, shortly after, but he just couldn't believe it. It was something that preyed on his mind. Giving the boys the option is a good idea, especially for Ethan who you can prepare for it and support through it if it's something he needs to do.

I'm sure the boys' GG would be very proud of you if she was aware you were thinking about all this and preparing your children. To be able to put other people first at a time like this is very selfless and marks you out as a wonderful mother.

:hugs: Remember to take care of you too hun.

Bx