MY grandmum is 92 and not well.. The Dr said yesterday she may only have a couple days left.. She has been semi concious since Monday and was unresponsive yesterday. Today however she woke up as such and was talking and drinking. She even had a bite to eat. Well not bite but something pureed as she has trouble swallowing at the moment... Anyways...

We have explained to our eldest about death but what we are wondering are the following?

Should we tell him she may not make it or just wait and see what happens? so in other words should we prepare him the best we can or just tell him when it happens?

I know this may sound morbid but I know I won't be in any state to discuss this afterwards


Should we let an 8yr old ( he will be 8 on monday) go to a viewing?

And what about his younger brother who will be 4 in September?

Ethan (8ish) is a highly emotional child and always has been so this is why I am reluctant to say anything to him at all but I also don't want to leave him unprepared..

With my son Isaac who is 4 in Sept he is more level headed but would he understand death? and would it be distressing for him to go to a viewing and funeral?

The reason for asking these questions is because you can't go back in a few days or weeks and say oh ok we should have done that.. You can't redo things in these situations.. I do know it does come down to what we feel our children can handle but I am curious what others may have done or seen others do..

thanks for reading my ramble.. I hope someone can offer me and my husband some advice

I should also say.. My boys are VERY close to GG (Great-Grandmum)