Hi, I have a 13 yo boy too, i have to say i disagree with the porn being ok for adolescents. As a family we have a book on puberty from the family planning clinic and it such a great tool for the kid and parents. there is a section on porn in it i found fantastic. it discusses that porn can be addictive and that whilst growing into your skin and sexuality it doesn't allow for the normal and natural progression of sex. at 13 it is perfectly normal and should be that boys and girls begin becoming sexual - this is in the form of masturbation and discovering their bodies, then it proceeds into a relationship with another learning about the opposite sex (or same sex), flirting, dating and eventually becoming mature enough for a sexual relationship. It has the theary that porn tends to tilt this natural progression of sexuality out of whack and can be very harmful to the adult sexual being. Porn tends to be very one sided, eg the girl does anything the boy wants with the main goal of satisfying the man, as adult men & women, we all know this is certainly NOT the case but through the eyes of an adolescent, it can seem like it is. when adolescents watch alot of porn they may find it screws with their wiring, the sexual urge is in the 'old brain' so it is based alot on instinct.... see graphic naked picture/s, get horny, release. instead of using the 'new brain' and seeing a girl/boy they like, feeling flustered, building up the courage to talk to the girl/boy, flirting, entering a relationship, kissing, touching/getting horny, finding out what each like, trust, then entering into a sexual relationship. This 'marries' the old and new brain into a sexual being, still having the instinct but able to use communication to have a relationship with the other. i think porn is fine for the fully formed sexual adult but can be damaging to young minds. because we all read about it and then did some further reseach we decided that it was not a good idea for our boys to see porn at such an impressionable age. perhaps you could get the book and ask your guy to have a read of it.
good luck
beckles
Yep I agree - there is nothing natural about porn, women are not like that in real life, sex is not like that in real life, bodies are not like that in real life - it is not realistic, it is addictive and it isn't something that anyone should be encouraged into especially teenage boys.
Girls have such a lowered standard already, porn only gives boys permission for that standard to continue lowering.