When you are ready to try again will be different for me and every other woman here I suspect. Its such a very personal thing. I had never endured the loss of a baby inutero until my fifth pregnancy. By this time my clock was tocking loudly. I was 16 weeks when my first Angel Daughter flew away and I remember wanting to be pregnant again right away. Right away because of my age, because I so wanted that baby. And also because I believed that I knew the pain and that I could survive it if it happened again. Always truly believing that it wouldn't happen again.

So, for me I guess the major reason was that I knew I could survive. That it wouldn't do me in and I would get through whatever was ahead. I have, I did and so will you.

I think (personally) it's a little esoteric to say "you will know". I don't believe we ever know. We make a choice/a decision and when we do that it needs to be informed. You need to enter into it knowing the pitfalls but believing in a wonderful outcome.

Never ever ever stop believing Butterfly that you will birth a baby destined for life on this earth. You will. I don't know that "you will know" when is the right time to conceive again. But I do know that you need to enter into that choice with fervour and optimisim.

I am here watching your gentle brave steps... Sending you love...