Hi BW and everyone, I too am at a crossroads of when to try? I had my fourth miscarriage 6 weeks ago. The main thing I regretted is that I just had only the usual battery of tests to find cause...I kick myself that I didn't test for everything a could think of. When we start trying again I need to know that I have exhausted all options (other than IVF) to the best of my knowledge so that I can be strong and not blame myself if anything goes wrong.

Also, we women are strong as you say, but we are also great at disguising our feelings and just getting on with it because life is busy and we feel we are not allowed/have time to sook. Women, as nurturers, need to sometimes just nurture themselves...it is important to recognise this and take time out before entering into another pg... it might be one month or one year... and you might never be sure that u r ready because there has been so much elation, hope, fear and disappointment running through your head and your heart recently that it is hard to sort it all out. Work though the sadness - take time to be with yourself, breathe deeply and face any other emotional issues that might not be related to the baby - a mother needs to baby herself before she can give herself to another as a whole person. Do things that make you confident and happy and will make you feel strong emotionally and physically.

I like to think that we would all be trying so hard if we didn't believe that there was a little soul out there waiting to join our families

Love
Tarolina XX