Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2007 #2

[claireabel]

Hi all

My god, there's so much going on in this thread that my head's spinning!

14DPO for me today and still no AF, although my temp did drop a little bit. i just can't get it out of my head. i usually get AF on 12DPO, so am hopeful this month. I almost tested this morning but didn't as i didn't think i'd be able to cope with the result - a -ive would be crushing and a +ive would leave me thinking it's false. I'll give it a few more days i think - DH wants to test thurs if no AF by then.

Pash, i know exactly how you feel! i just want to ignore the possibility of a pregnancy too, but it's impossible! My fingers are crossed for you.

Sharon thanks for the support. BD'ing three days before O still gives you guys great chances, esp for a little girl! good luck.

Shellbell i can't believe people would say it wasn't a real m/c because you were five weeks. the loss of a bubba is the loss of a bubba, no matter when it occurred. 5 weeks might seem a short time but the attachment you form is no less. Some people just don't get it.

Megan - good luck to you both with this cycle.

Kiwigirl - hello! nice to see you in the TTC thread as opposed to te waiting for AF one! Good luck with the 2WW. i didn't find this one as hard as last time (up until the last day or two) b/c i was so cautious of getting my hopes up. i didn't get a lot of EWCM this cycle either, and i normally get loads, so maybe it has something to do with the d&c? good luck.

Las - good luck! hopefully the green tea and pineapple juice will bring great results.

Bun - you sounds like you're in a great state of mind - i wish i was as calm! good luck with th next few days.

TimNik - how exciting! i rang a psychic after my mc b/c i just wanted 'answers', but can't get in until end of june. one of my girlfriends went to see her after her m/c and she knew all about the m/c and predicted she was pg (she was, just over 2 weeks!) and that she'd have a little girl then a little boy! hopefully we'll be hearing good news from you soon, august isn't that far away!

Salt i'm so sorry you're not feeling great. it's so hard being at the wrong end of your cycle. i hope it happens soon for you.

Lee - not too much longer to go for you. i laughed at the pyscho-analysis thing, that's me to a tea! i'm in a shocker of a mood today and am wondering if it's pms or pg hormones!

Speak soon girls, good luck to everyone in the 2WW and earlier on in their cycles.

[pash]

2mums - Like you said, it only takes one egg (and a little spermie), so fingers crossed that Kim's egg is the one, and maybe the super fertility powers will help it stick. BTW, had no idea follicles were so big. Alyways thought they'd be only visible under a microscope. Sorry for being so ignorant & showing it
Rachael - hmm... thats a bit confusing. I read somewhere that its possible to have more than one patch of EWCM in a cycle, and that you don't necessarily O at them all. Tho dunno what it means when the temps don't match the CM. Maybe just keep up the BD ;P DH should like that.
Salt - You are such a sweetheart. Hope you're feeling better. Maybe its a good thing that you care less about trying. Maybe it will happen when you least expect it. You might get all the joy without the anxiety.
Las - That's great news! Wonder if the shops are noticing a higher demand for pineapple juice & green tea?
TimNik - I suppose it must be good to know that everything is ok medically, and that it was just bad luck. Hopefully that will ease your mind when you do fall pg. V interesting about the psychic. A lady did my numbers a few years ago & predicted my first child at 30yrs. Not true or false yet, but just thought I'd share. Hope your predictions come true.
Lee - Not too long to wait now! You're past halfway.
Shoegal - What are you upto? I like the quality not quantity explanation BTW. Will have to tell DH about needing fresh spermies!

Bun - Your attitude is SOOOOO good! Maybe all the jabs are acting as acupunture and having a calming effect? Seriously though, I think you have a great attitude, and I wish some of your calm & patience would rub off on me.

My BBs get a bit sore & lumpy (sounds lovely doesn't it) about 3-5 days before AF & during. But when pg (though at about 6 weeks on) they really really hurt. Especially in the fruit & veg section of the supermarket where its colder. But if you don't usually get sore BBs, I'd see that as a good sign.

Claireabel - I know EXACTLY what you mean. Pulling my hair out (literally, the shower drain is blocked cos of my hair, and the plumber has left the shower in an unusable state so extra deodorant 2moro, sorry for the sidetrack). Really really want to know now, but don't think I can cope with a BFN.

I feel like a different person to the rational woman that I was at the start of the 2WW. I have no signs that I might be pg. No sore BBs. Not peeing loads. Even the zits have calmed down. Only AF is 1 day late & I am convinced that I might be pg. Sort of, ok, not convinced at all.

Dunno if I should test and know now. Or if I should wait (for what?! I forget what I wanted to wait for?). Is it better to get a BFN now, or AF later?

*arrrgh* I'm going crazy! Once upon a time I used to be able to focus on things other than TTC

[satya]

Hi everyone,

Sharon - Don't you just hate friends & neighbours announcing pregnancies when they haven't been trying long. Another of my favourites is the people who are having serious relationship problems that suddenly turn up pregnant.
Las - good luck with the transfer.
shellbell - I'm sorry for your loss. Regardless of how far along you were it was a real loss. I've had two early losses (10 years apart) so I understand.
Clairabel - Welcome. I am sorry for your loss. What cycle day are you on? Don't stress too much about being pg. It's quite common after m/c to think that you are again when you are not..... just ask any of us in here.
Pash - I might test tomorrow - 10DPO but I'm trying to hold off. I Can't believe you haven't tested. I would have caved in ages ago.
Twomums - Try to remember that it's still better to have one follicle than to have none at all. I hope all goes well this cycle.
Bun - Things are sounding very positive for you this cycle. Good luck with the BT if you have it.
Timnik - I hope the psychic is right about a pregnancy but I hope they are wrong about it being a premmie. You don't need that added stress.
Salt - I hope your AF disappears soon.
Lee - Some women do get skin breakouts with early pregnancy but I get them most months mid cycle and around AF time so I can't look at that as a sign. I hope your TWW goes really fast.
Sorry to anyone I've missed.
It's now CD23 9DPO for me. My tiredness has continued. My cold is almost gone. Just have a stuffy nose now and the odd bout of coughing. I've now had two dips in my chart and my temp has now gone up above other temps this cycle. I can't really read anything into it though as I have been sick and have coughed heaps so my temps could have been affected. Last night I had to get up twice to use the loo, on Monday night I had to get up 6 times. I had been drinking heaps of water on Monday so that could account for that, but yesterday's water consumption was pretty normal. In the 24 hours between 9.30pm Monday & 9.30pm Tuesday I peed 20 times... yes I counted... I couldn't help myself after the 6 trips during the night. I'm hoping that this is a good sign and not just part of my cold.... I guess only time will tell. I've also had a couple of days of bleeding gums when I brush my teeth. My BBs are not sore but my tiny dog jumped on my chest yesterday and the pain was huge.

I am so trying not to get my hopes up. The last two cycles I had things I saw as symptoms but they died down in week 4 so I guess they are my O symptoms. Now I'm trying to blame everything on my cold so I don't get excited. That said, I may test tomorrow. My last cycle was a 24 day one so I think it should be OK to test on CD24. I'd like to hold out until I actually go overdue at CD28 (if I do) but I don't think I can hold out. I have some of the LC early instream tests so I might just do it tomorrow am.

[Bun]

Morning girls,

Nikilove - so sorry to hear about your baby boy. It must be so hard thinking what would have been this month. . Feel free to post in here anytime you want. We are all here for you.

Salt - sorry to hear that you are feeling down. This process really is such a rollercoaster. I think it's good that you have a plan to see Mike if you don't conceive in the next couple of months. I am sure he will be able to help you if it comes to that. I get v jealous of women who have trouble-free pregnancies too, and don't even realise how lucky they are.

Nicole - happy birthday! I think it's good that you are quite casual about the whole TTC process. The trouble with trying to get in tune with your body is that you constantly look for signs or symptoms and drive yourself crazy!! I'm glad all your test results came back normal. Sometimes it seems hard to believe that 2 losses in a row can just be bad luck, but it can be and is in both our cases. With clomid, my clinic makes me have a BT on day 2 of my cycle to check that my hormones are at baseline levels before they will let me start taking it. Do you have someone you can call and ask?

shellbell - it really is awful how some people treat it like it's not a real loss. They have absolutely no idea what they are talking about. My FIL told me that in their day, they would not even have known about a pregnancy when I lost mine, I'm like - and what difference does that make? And anyway, he has no idea what he is talking about!! I got really angry because my first loss was a lot later and there is no way you would not know what was going on if you saw what I saw, but the second loss, although I was only 5w 3d and wasn't as traumatic physically, it still hurt just as much. I know it sounds awful, but sometimes I wish the people who make these comments would go through this too just so they would know how awful it really is and to get them to stop making such horrible comments ever again.

Lee - a skin breakout can definitely be a symptom due to all the hormones running around. I just never know when I am looking too much into things! Good luck!

satya - have you tested yet??

pash - it can be soooo hard not to test!! My attitude seems to change daily. I am quite happy and calm atm, but it could change in 5 mins. I try and remind myself of the good things of not being pg, like eating and drinking what you like, having more money, etc, it doesn't make it ok, but I like to try and concentrate on these things if I can. And I also think that it will happen eventually, we just have no control over when. I can't believe you are late and still haven't tested!

claireabel - have you tested yet? Your chart looks fantastic! I reckon you are pg.

Hi to everyone I have missed.

I have decided I am not going to get the BT done tomorrow. I will have to ph the clinic and tell them (or they ph and hassle me when the results don't come in when expected), and I am sure they will tell me off, but I don't care. It is difficult to know when AF is due, as clomid can change your LP, but I don't want to be testing until at least 15DPO, actually I would rather wait til 19DPO, but I will see how I go. I am quite happy to just wait. We have finally decided that after our holiday in Spain we will spend the last 5 days in Paris before coming home. I can't wait! We are also going to go to Eurodisney. I figure if I am not pg, I will be able to go on more rides and eat and drink to my hearts content, so what does it matter if I am pg or not? Both are good, and if I'm not, then we just try again next month.

[Sequoia]

Shoegal - What are you upto? I like the quality not quantity explanation BTW. Will have to tell DH about needing fresh spermies!

Hi Pash, I am going much better, thanks for asking. 2 weeks yesterday since I MC'd and I am 100% positive I O'd yesterday. We are not going to try until next cycle so that must mean AF is about 2 weeks away.

When it first happened I was desperate to try again but now realise that this time has been good to reflect and allow my body to regenerate. I am trying to be positve and hope we will be blessed very soon.

Bah!! I just want to join this thread again and have something to contribute! ATM, I am hanging out in the Waiting for AF after MC thread...

Good luck with a hun!!

[Sequoia]

Thanks Salty, hugs to you hun.

xo