Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #4

[Canary]

Hi girls

Jen, you are amazing. Thank you for that long, long list of us all. It is nice to see that there are lots of BFPs at the top - room for a few more, I think.

I am just dropping in to let you know that I have been lurking to find out how you are all doing, sending lots of babydust and positive vibe your ways! I have now joined in on the PAML thread and wont be bothering you so much over here. Thank you all for so much support over the last few months- it has been so helpful and has really kept me sane!

I'll drop in from time to time, but I expect to see you all in PAML really soon.

[pbstar]

morning girls

jodsan- i guess it is a little colder this time of year so perhaps that has something to do with it, i think i do need to get rid of this thermometer and just relax though. DH confiscated it a few months ago because i got too obsessive and now i managed to get it back and its doing my head in again. think i will just keep BDing every second day all month and then i know i'm covered! will try to time it for 5th june too, just in case

jen- thanks for the i feel like a bit of a sook because you have had this confusion about o this cycle too but you have handled a lot better than i am. anyway i am going to take a leaf out of your book and go with the flow...whatever will be will be hey?

hope everyone else is well and enjoying all the BDing that is going on!

xo

[smilanatu]

Just a quick hello ladies as usual my desk is piled high! I am lurking and reading though...

AJC...keep the positive attitude!

jen *wavin atcha*

pbstar...canary...hey gurlies!

AFM...waitin to O 2morro...hopin to catch that egg!!! I'm havin some pain on the right side this afternoon...we been bding every night since Saturday...they say practice makes perfect




:goodluck2: and lots of

[plc1805]

Hi everyone - i can't believe it has been so long since i have posted - don't feel like it has been cos i am still lurking several times a day. But I didn't even get a prompt from BB this morning on my emails about this thread - I can't believe i could be dropped off this thread - the horror!! Then jen confirmed in her last post that it had been a while too. Sorry girls i don't mean to neglect in anyway. I have been keeping up - just not totally 100%. Please know i'm always here - cheering you guys on!!

All ok with me - had another hcg test yesterday just to get extra reassurance. I know the u/s was great but the week and a half since can do funny things to ur head . Told my family on Wed night who were obviously pleased but understand our caution.

I have also been lurking in PAML thread - haven't posted in there much either. I feel in a real kind of limbo. Just need more of you all to join me in PAML i guess.....

[jen805]

Canary--You could never be a bother! We're so glad you're still here! Huge coming your way!

Ladies, just so you all know, I'll be terrible when I become pregnant, I don't know if I could ever leave this thread! Everyone's going to have to put me on their ignore list! This thread is what kept me going, and still gets me out of bed early every morning with anticipation to see what's been going on, and what I missed while I was sleeping! So please get used to me, as I've gotten way too used to you girls to ever leave! You're stuck with me!


pbstar--You're NOT a sook! Besides, last month I was a mess... so this month is just making up for last month! And if it makes you feel any better, I've been very irritable and grumpy and completely stressed out due to my kids... So I feel like I'm in a positive frame of mind when I'm here. My kids lately have me questioning my sanity in trying for another one!


smilanatu--Wow, I can't believe you're O already! This month has just gone by crazy fast! Go catch that egg, little Keep up the


plc--Oh, I'm so glad to hear from you! You had me a little worried... glad to know you were at least lurking! And don't worry, there's no way you could ever be dropped from this thread--the horror would be all ours, I assure you! Hey, where's your ticker?

[Mel A]

Well I'm here in sunny Auckland, I'm here for work and only for one day. Arrived last night about 11 and leave tomorrow morning at 6. So, a whirlwind tour. The good thing is no spotting which i got first day last time. The people here are great as usual. Must do work and talk to people. Thank you all for your positive thoughts. It has really helped.

[Baby Angels]

Hey Birthday Buddy.... yeah I know I m not meant to be here but I keep coming back to keep an eye on you all.... Glad I did... what are you doing girlfriend....


All this not sure... limbo...

There is no Limbo girlfriend..... YOU ARE PREGNANT.... you have a beautiful beautiful baby in that big fat tummy of yours... before you know it .... I understand where your head is at but dont let anything take from you enjoying every second with your baby.... every second. Lurk if you want... by all means.... Goodness.. I still do..... but dont be in limbo..... Go over to PAML..... canary is there and if I went over to have a look I m sure some of "older" ones are there as well...... when you get there.... let me know if nickster is over there.

I know you well enough to know in your post your feeling the anxiety very strongly..... Chill Girl....... ONE DAY AT A TIME.... Your not going over to a thread where people dont understand..... they have all been through what we have been through.... they all live each day with the same anxiety.... that each second could be the last..... There is one person and one person only who controls how you feel right now..... and thats YOU!!!!!!!!!!! take control.... be positive... enjoy every second with your precious baby...... I still do.... and he is 19 (mind you, he is the one who holds me now and tells me everything is going to be alright)... dont let your head get in the way of the time you have with your precious one now..... I chatted away to my angels more than i chatted to DH.... (they dont argue back... its great) .... and when they are 6' 5 and towering above you... keep chatting.... (they ummmm do argue back then)

Now chear up girl..... look down at that amaizing bub and smile.... you waited a long time for him/her..... dont let your head get in the way.


AND FOR ANYONE ELSE ON THE TOP OF JENS LIST.......... DITO!!!!!!!!!!

Now.... chin up peoples.... tomorrow is another day.....lets face it with a smile hey.

[jen805]

Angel babies--This is why we love you! You say it like it is, with kindness and affection! Thanks for lurking!

[AJC]

Morning ladies.

Just wanted to spread some for you!!! Thanks again for all the support & well wishes.

Take care & have a great weekend everyone.

[nicjay]

MelA - Have fun in Auckland!

plc - Glad to hear everything is well with you

smilanatu - Have fun, hope you catch that egg! Good luck.

Canary - All the best, hope everything goes well for you!

jen - Thanks for that hun, I'm just not feeling particularly positive about this month - I don't know maybe its just a defence so I'm not disappointed when it doesn't happen Hopefully I'm wrong, but I don't think so. Anyway I'm off to the clinic for a preg BT on Tuesday so will know for sure then. My FS says that AF shouldn't arrive until I stop the pessaries, so we'll see. If the test is neg on Tues I'll stop with them then.

jenushka - Yay for a positive OPK! I know how you feel, I have had really mixed results with them too - they seem to work for me some months but not others and some brands seem to work better for me than others too. Good luck.

Jodsan - No worries! I'm not sure that I'd want to use a supplement in your situation either, chances are pretty good that you prog levels are good I think. I'm pretty conservative I guess - don't like to use any sort of medication unless there is a good reason for it, in your case it would be a low prog level. Yep I have tried both naturopathy and acupuncture - actually I was having acupuncture up until recently. Unfortunately though neither of them seemed to help with my irregular cycles, and in the case of the acupuncture I have come away with a bit of a sour taste in my mouth All these claims were made - I can make your cycles regular again, lengthen luteal phase, we'll have you pg in a few months...none of which happened even after quite a few months of treatment. Don't get me wrong, I'm a big believer in natural treatments and was full of confidence that the acupuncture would be excellent to complement the conventional treatment, but it just didn't work out that way and unfortunately also did not come cheap - weekly sessions at $65 a pop. I'm just really disappointed in it and sort of feel like I have done everything I can and that there are not many alternatives left now - and DH and I are not getting any younger either.

pbstar - I know how it feels, have had exactly the same thing happen in previous cycles. I hope a break does you good if you decide that it what you want to do.

issy - Not feeling too bad today - thanks! I was just down a bit the other day after the FS visit and being told that Clomid was probably in my future again Cripes I hate taking it! It's not even so much the IUI that I'm worried about, the good thing about that it that at least it will take a bit of the pressure off in terms of timing BDing for us. We're a bit like you too - I fell pg twice last year, once without Clomid and once with it. Not to mention we fell pg with our DD with no trouble either. So we know we can do it, but the biggest part of our problem is that we both feel that time is running out - we are not getting any younger and need to get things moving along. But good luck with whatever you decide

AJC - Glad to hear your scan went well Hopefully all will go smoothly for you from now on!

Mollycat - Sorry about the CD21 test, but hopefully things are happening - good luck!

SaraJane - Yay for finding a house!!

AFM - Not much happening, 9DPO and counting down the days now until my BT on Tuesday. It's my DDs 4th birthday that day so hopefully that's a good sign, but somehow I doubt it....oh well. Still getting plenty of symptoms, all from the pessaries I'm sure Oh well at least its just about the weekend, so will have DH around to take my mind off it all. Have a nice weekend everyone!

[Acria]

Hi girls, sorry I haven't posted in a little while. I'm just feeling a bit 'blergh' with work atm. Not sure why.. oh well. And worrying that I'm not pg, and having no money left till next Friday, etc etc. Might be because I stopped taking St John's Wort when DH and I decided to TTC again..and I'm feeling the effects. My symptoms are all still there..2 or 3 days till I test again. Look after yourself girls

Lisa xx

[Jodsan]

Hey megsmum - bugger that the acupunture didn't fix your cycles. I think different things work for different people. I am taking all the supplements and herbs that my naturopath has given me, but to be honest, I still believe that exercise is the biggest cure of all. I have been running for 30 mins every second day and I can literally feel my lymph glands clearing all the bad stuff. From what I have read, irregular cycles is mostly due to hormonal imbalances. From the age of 30 onwards, our bodies dont produce as much progesterone as they did before (as our eggs age). Combine that with the fact that we are absorbing lots of environmental hormones (especially from meats) which mimic estrogen, most of us in this age group must have excess estrogen that the liver has trouble eliminating. I think that the only way to combat it is to clear as many toxins as we can from our bodies to assist in liver function. And I believe exercise is the best way to do this, along with heaps of fruit and vegis. Just my beliefs, but might be really worth thinking about for you since (like me) you hate taking anything artificial. I am feeling so good from all this liver detox stuff, I just want all you girls to feel as good as me. And interestingly, I had some EWCM last night and this morning (5 days out from O - always O on CD14) and my cervix was slightly open. So I am wondering whether all this cleansing has lengthened my fertile period. I usually only get EWCM for 1 day. Wait and see what happens over the next few days I guess.