Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08

**pbstar** · May 14th, 2008, 04:15 PM

hi girls

have been out of action for a few days- have been sick and felt a little down and out after AF came...anyway she is almost leaving, just packing her bags now so i am starting to feel a little better.

i have booked an appt with an acupuncturist and herbalist who specialises in fertility- i figure she must be good because the earliest appt is end of june. anyway we might get lucky before then but in any case i have something to look forward to and be positive about

i will have to read through and catch up on where everyone is at, just wanted to pop in and say a big hello first. hope everyone is well.

**Acria** · May 14th, 2008, 06:10 PM

Van - I understand what you mean about Dh's not being co-operative. And I really get the feeling like I'm using him for his sperm sometimes, especially when it's clear I'm not actually turned on, etc. We decided to start TTC again last week and I'm coming up to my fertile time, so it's been a case of DTD every day atm. Monday it was great, still exciting because it had been a while. Yesterday neither of us really felt like it, but felt that we *should*, and today I surprised DH in bed when he came home from work. I suppose it's a matter of finding what works for you, and both having the same views and feelings about it. It's going to be okay for him when you're both making love 'just for the sperm', if you both understand that you are't always going to feel like it, and sometimes it's one of those thigns you're doing for love, just in a different way

Wow..that was rambly of me..

Plc - glad to hear that about milo! I never knew that..just knew it was meant to have a lot of useful minerals and vitamins, and no caffiene. Extra motivation for drinking milo

Always welcome.

I have no idea about my cervial position..I've never actually tried to feel it, but I feel like it would be uncomfortable for some reason. And I don't temp either -_- I'm lazy with TTC..I can usually feel for a couple of days when I'm going to ovulate, I get pains..so I tend to think 'Well, I know when my fertile period is coming'. I just hope I'm right!

Lisa xx

**AJC** · May 14th, 2008, 07:00 PM

Mollycat - is there any chance you could have O'd early? Mmmm, the milo has been yum. I was off tea and coffee full stop for a while but I told myself that I need to relax so am allowing myself 1 - 2 cups per week of one or the other. Dare devil aren't I?!?! he he he

pbstar - GL with the acupuncture and herbs this month!

lea · May 14th, 2008, 08:04 PM

hi im still trying to work this thing out.. i forgot where i had posted and took me all day to try n find it again

coming here i feel like i am not the only one that has gone through wot i have.. its interesting to read how other people are coping and how they know so much about there bodies.. goodness me i have no idea when i ovulate and all that. i brought a maybe baby thingy to try and help.... im waiting for an appointment to see a specialist.. but have to go for an ultraound on monday to check my ovaries and uterus.. the dr wants to make sure i dont have pcos....

**Canary** · May 15th, 2008, 07:09 AM

Hi Everyone.
Just a quickie fromme tonight (it's 10pm here)...

Jen- You make me laugh, girl! Videos, now there's an idea....

Jenushka- Yes, you can add me to the list of us who would change her flight. The way I see it is that I only have 12 chances per year to conceive (Well, 11 really 'cos of my longer cycles). Do you think that going away, having a rest, re-charging your batteries, letting your hair down (etc.) might actually be helpful? If so, then you migh not want to change it.....?

AJC- Wow, it really sounds good symptom wise- I've got my fingers and toes crossed!!

I am on CD35 and am going insane!! Yes, I know that I am slightly stressed with work at the mo, and am OBSESSED with whether AF is on her way...so maybe that's why she's not here. Have NO pg symptoms. Woke up yesterday and today with mild cramps and thought she would arrive. Just want her to get here so i can get on with the next cycle and calm down a bit. My last cycles were 33 and 34 days long, so it's not like AF is very late......What shall I do? it is so tempting to POAS, but as mentioned yesterday, I'd rather not see a BFN.

Sorry to ramble on. I think I must be one of the most impatient people in history!
Got to go.
C

**pbstar** · May 15th, 2008, 07:26 AM

canary- i can't believe you still haven't tested! if i was you i would definitely test- but then again if i was you i would have tested 5 days ago whether i had symptoms or not....

anyway my fingers are crossed and i am

for you to get your BFP

**plc1805** · May 15th, 2008, 07:27 AM

Canary - can't remember if u have already POAS this cycle or not but maybe it's time to do so again. Try tomorrow morning perhaps with FMU. If it is the dreaded BFN, then I would get it checked out. Alternatively, wait 2-3 more days and then POAS , etc. Sometimes AF can be indeed delayed cos of stress.

hun!

jenushka - i don't have an opinion one way or another with the plane travel other than do what you feel is the right thing for you - particularly ur state of mind!! ...not sure about St John's Wort and sperm, sorry.....

mollycat - sounds crazy at ur place but my heart thinks it's kind of lovely at the same time - it is an idea that i had thought of to do myself.....

hello everyone else - i listed a whole heap of names last time and was mortified to learn since that i missed a few so not going to try this time - just know that u are ALL thought of!!!

**mollycat** · May 15th, 2008, 08:10 AM

Jen - at the moment they are cutting the wall out for the new kitchen window. We played jigsaw puzzle last night and put the kitchen together, it's now sitting in the middle of our backyard. I have to go out later and number it before putting it away again. It took about an hour to sort it out in the right shape. LOL. DH was so tired and cranky, glad it finally came together.

Other people's kids are usually pretty good to look after, every now and then you get a couple that are a little bit challenging, but most of the time it's easy. I often think that it's crazy too (when I have parent's coming for interviews at certain times I tell them it's a little bit mad here, especially after school)

Jenushka - I think i would change my flight as well - it's what us "dedicated" people would do.
Lea - good luck with your ultrasound - PCOS is not totally horrible (just a few life changes) and sometimes it's good to have a reason or explanation about what your body is doing.

AJC - I don't think i O'd early, my temp jumped about the time AF stopped, I guess time will tell? Dare Devil I don't think one or two cups will hurt you

Canary - Have you POAS at all, I hope for you that all this is leading to a BFP, I would be getting very anxious.

for everyone.

**jen805** · May 15th, 2008, 08:58 AM

Canary--If you were impatient, you would've POAS already! I was thinking more along the lines of you're the MOST patient person in this group!

I know what you mean about not wanting to see a BFN, but you have some definite restraint! I would be going crazy for sure by now! Do you have tests at home that you aren't using, or is that too much of a temptation for you? Because if you DO have tests and you're STILL showing this much restraint, then I'm going to get on my knees,bow down, and pay homage to you!

Saying tons of prayers for you!!!

mollycat--Sounds like a pain in the butt, but just imagine how great it will be when it's over! So is O coming up for you, too? I'm supposed to O on Sat. It's going to be a BD fest for me this weekend--but not going to tell DF, that way he doesn't feel pressured out. And definitely no use of the term "baby dancing", as I think that was a spoiler last month. I'm just going to try to keep the fun going for now, and try really hard to not think about any outcome! DF seems pretty happy lately, which makes him much easier to put up with, so I think I'll keep the focus on him for now! Will your extension be finished by this weekend?

**issy02** · May 15th, 2008, 09:50 AM

Hi beatiful ladies,

Huge hello and hugs to you, hope you're all doing well.

Sorry for no personals today, I am totally overloaded with work at the moment so this is just a short post to say hi to everyone and send you all

:goodluck2: to everyone waiting in TWW, happy

to everyone approaching ov,

for all the lucky ladies who got their long awaited

this month, and of course

for all.

Issy

**AJC** · May 15th, 2008, 10:13 AM

Morning everyone

Jenushka - you're totally normal! I would change flights to avoid missing the eggie, no doubt about that.

Canary - GL - hope it's a BFP. I know what you mean about being a little scared to POAS.

Mollycat - maybe it's just the tamoxifen making your temps higher than usual. I have found that this month my temps have been higher pre O than usual. Just to confuse us even more. Renos sound good, they are stressful but it will be sooo worth it.

afm - well temp still high today @ 12dpo. So relieved that my LP is longer this cycle, either coincidence or the B6 has helped. Might POAS if no af by Sat, going out for dinner for SIL's b'day so want to enjoy a nice glass of wine (or two or three) if I may. Jen - still have that funny taste in my mouth it's weird. Everything I eat has been repeating on me more than normal too. Breasts aren't that sore but are a little sensitive. DH commented this morn that they look more plump than usual and they are quite veiny too. Well as I said, trying not to get my hopes up.....easier said than done.

**jenushka** · May 14th, 2008, 08:08 PM

Ladies!

Have just posted a very selfish venting post in the 2ww thread so won't carry on like a pork chop all over again in here! Needless to say I'd love to pull up a seat in this very warm and welcoming place for another cycle...

To all those I have not yet met

and hello! I, like the other ladies, hope your stay here is short and sweet. I have hopeful visions of popping my head back in next month and seeing nothing but a few tumbleweeds bouncing around!

To the lovely ladies I have already met - big big

I hope that you are all well, and wherever you are in your cycle, I have my

for every one of you

Now if I could ask all of you for your opinion - is it a bit to "ttc extreme" of me to want to change my flights to Sydney (going without dh) in a couple of weeks because I am due to be away for my entire fertile window? I am very seriously considering delaying my trip by a week and just don't know if that makes me a total ttc obsessed crazy-woman! I have a feeling this is not normal behaviour but will probably change my flights anyway!!! What the heck!!

**jenushka** · May 14th, 2008, 08:15 PM

Yes - me again!

Another question - anyone ever come across any info on the effect St John's Wort can have on sperm? DH has been taking it for about a month or so and reading a recent post where someone mentioned they'd stopped taking it in order to ttc got me thinking...

I'm heading off to google it now...

Oh, and just to let you know, I've tipped a bucket of

over each of you

lea · May 14th, 2008, 08:18 PM

no i would probably change my flight as well.. who knows it could have been your lucky month

hehe

**jen805** · May 15th, 2008, 02:16 AM

Good morning friends! I love waking up to so many posts!

megsmum--Glad to hear you're back safely from Singapore, but so very sorry to read of your BFN's! Huge hugs to you, hun!

plc--Good morning baby mama! Never thought of myself as having an accent, although I guess to you it would sound like I did! The only time I can tell is when I'm attempting to speak Spanish--I just sound so WHITE!

mollycat--I don't know how you can handle so many kids that aren't your own! You're an inspiration--you have to be a pretty special person to be able to effectively care for young children that aren't even yours! Did you decide where to put your kitchen window? I'm trying to decide where to put my front door... lol, j/k

mellie--

to the group! Good luck TTC--have you checked out the gender swaying thread? It seems as thought there's certain foods to eat/stay away from.... I would love to have a girl, but too many of the foods that I love to eat are the ones I'm supposed to stay away from if I want a girl! I figured I would just take what I can get, there's no way I'm giving pizza up any time soon! lol... Wishing you lots of luck on your journey!

Vanaithi--I'm convinced I don't even have a cervix--everything feels the same!

Glad I was able to help you see things in a different perspective--that's why we're all here, to help each other out!

pbstar--Sorry again about AF, but so glad she's packing up (hopefully for a long time!). Good luck with the accupuncture and the herbalist, hope it helps bring you to a BFP!

Acria--I bet DH was very pleased to find you waiting in bed for him--I'm sure he didn't protest too loudly! It's hard to keep things exciting sometimes, isn't it? DF and I have been watching movies lately to help keep the juices flowing--whatever it takes, right?

lea--Good luck with your u/s next week! Hope you get good news regarding the PCOS--everything's crossed for you!

jenushka--I think if it were me, I would probably change flights, as well! So that must make us both (and lea, too) TTC obsessed crazy women!

I think dedicated is a better term, don't you? So very sorry to hear about AF--she seems to enjoy toying with the emotions of us crazy, obsessed women (oh, sorry, I mean us dedicated women!) Our time's coming, I just know it! (Sorry I can't help about the St. John's Wort question...)

AJC--Have you been keeping up with your dental hygiene, or is that weird taste still lingering?

I've noticed reading TWW logs that it's a very common symptom of pg., so I'm praying for you!!!

hi treelo! Good luck for this month, you're in my prayers!

mmteacher--Hey mama! Hope things are going great with you!

AFM... Supposed to O on Sat.... DF and I have been keeping very busy lately IYKWIM!! Feeling very relaxed about everything at the moment, just having fun BD'ing whenever, instead of doing it to TTC. Hope this doesn't offend anyone, but anyone looking to spice things up should definitely try watching movies--how do you think I was able to get to 5 times in one night?????

"sigh" it's hard to be a hero!

Hi's and hugs to everyone else! Gotta go run my errands, will check back in later!