Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08

[jen805]

Canary-- as soon as I heard the term, I thought of you and nickster! It's really funny because some of the terms you guys use can almost make me imagine that I can hear your accent through your words! (Does that make sense?) For instance: going to the loo, um, ok, that's all I can think of at the moment--oh! and bloody or buggers! I love it! It is amazing, though, you're right--about the way the lingo varies between countries. It's all English, similar in some ways, yet very different in others! Have fun with the housework! I've got to do the same thing--boo!

[mollycat]

Good morning to all

welcome Lea - hope your stay here is short and sweet, the ladies on this forum are the most helpful group, they have really been so supportive in a way most people can't.

My extension is coming along just great - the frame went up yesterday, the windows are in, and they started putting the weatherboards on the back of the house. Today the kids and I are going visiting because they are working on the roof, they have to pull off part of the existing roof and put a new roof over that section and the new section. Too dangerous and too noisy I think to stay home today.

Must go now, it's just light enough to start my outside jobs before work. I'm off to my parents house to hang my washing, I can't find my clothes line (it's surrounded by timber).

Hope everyone has a great day to each and everyone of you.

[Acria]

Good morning ladies!

Thanks to Jen, Canary, and everyone for such a warm welcome, it's greatly appreciated

Lea - welcome to you also, and as others have said to me, I hope your stay here is short and sweet.

Mollycat - sounds like thigns are going great with your extension over there! Lucky duck, aside from the noise and inconvenience

Sorry about not many personals, will improve over time

I'm feeling just a little bit down this morning, for no reason other than the fact that I've stopped taking St John's Wort, which I usually take 2 or 3 times a day to moderate my moods. I've read that it's not considered safe for use during pregnancy though, and I'm determined to do everything 'right' this time. I'v even stopped drinking my beloved Twining English Breakfast tea, due to keeping caffiene down. Hot milo is a lovely substitute during the colder months though, and I have some dilmah decaf tucked away for if things get desperate

Waiting to see if my boss is organising a girls' night out tomorrow, if so, they'll want to know why I'm not drinking and they'll be the first ones to find out DH and I are TTC! We'll see what happens..

Lisa xx

[jen805]

mollycat--Hope you have fun getting out with the kids! How many kids do you watch? My mom had a daycare in our home my whole life--literally from 1st grade-graduation. She finally quit when she moved away to Turkey when I was 18--actually that's not true, she even did d/c in Turkey! But I wasn't there, so that doesn't count! So because she had so many parents, I started babysitting at an early age--probably like 10 or 11. Most people brag when they've been working since they were 16, but they've got nothing on me! That's how I got my spending money--it was a great learning experience, but I would NEVER trust a kid here with my kids! It amazes me how many parents would go away for the whole weekend and leave their kids with me--a teenager! Anyhow, I don't know how you do it! If I learned anything through my experience, it's that I don't have the patience to be a daycare provider--my owns kids test my patience, I don't need someone else's kids pushing my buttons! The world needs more people like you taking care of their kids!


Acria--Sounds like you are determined to do everything possible to have a healthy, happy pregnancy! It just shows how dedicated you are to being a great mom! Have fun on your night out tomorrow!

[AJC]

Morning ladies....wow so much to catch up on.

Acira - Welcome and I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure you will find comfort in here. Good luck with your ttc journey and I hope you get a happy ending real soon! P.S Milo is fab isn't it. I try to only have 1 - 2 cups of coffee or tea per week so for the rest of the time it's Milo. Have you tried the new malted one? - yummo!!!

Lea - Welcome to you also, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. My first m/c was a blighted ovum and I remember feeling sooo confused. I hope you have a healthy bubba in your arms very soon!!!

Jen - Geocaching sounds like heaps of fun. Glad your DH got back safely.

Smilinatu - Hugs for you and your sweetie.

Canary - Good luck to you this cycle. With no af yet sounds very promising for you. Fingers crossed. afm, well Iam 11dpo and temp is still up which is a good thing because it dropped on 9dpo last month and I had af by 11dpo. i have been taking b6 supplement to hopefully extend my LP so am hoping that af won't come at all or if she insists waits until at least 14dpo. I don't really have any symptoms - like you I've been soooo tired but I've had alot on my plate lately so not really reading into it. Breasts have been tender and I've had really funny tastes in my mouth but again, not going to read into it. Will wait until 15dpo to test or earlier only if I have very strong symptoms. Good luck to you!!!

Vanaithi - your bbt sounds fine for the moment. My bbt usually stays high until around 1 - 2 days prior to af when it drops to a level usually around the cover line. Temping is a great way to keep track of your cycle.

tinak - Hope you are enjoying your holiday. Sorry about no af and the BFN's, my cycle has been late quite a few times and the only way I could stay sane was to temp so at least I knew what was happening (whether I O'd late etc). Hope it's just too early for a BFP but please keep enjoying your holiday, don't let this get you down.

Hugs and Babydust to all.

[Vanaithi]

Hi all... sorry im selfish today but gotta unload ... AF is just around the corner... im sure of it cos i dont think there's any chance of me being pg... i have no funny belly feelings any more & just read on the conception forums that during ovulation your cervix is high & soft & if conception has occured, then the cervix remains like high & soft... but mine is low & hard...

i had sore bbs & cramps that could have meant ovulation last monday & tuesday but dh didnt want to dtd because he was tired... more like couldnt be bothered! we dtd on wednesday but it was too late...

now im emotional & sad & a bit angry at dh... i want a baby badly! im so impatient...

[jen805]

Vanaithi-- It could just be too early to be feeling or seeing any signs yet, especially if you only O last week. If you did O last week, it would still be another week or so before you would feel anything (if you felt anything at all, since many women don't feel any signs in the beginning). Cheer up hun, you can't rush perfection! Rome wasn't built in a day.... You know all the old cliche's. I know it's really hard waiting it out, we all get frustrated and antsy--but have faith that your time will come! BTW, feel free to vent anytime--we've all been there!


AJC--Looks like you're getting your long-awaited longer LP! About that funny taste in your mouth, you didn't forget to brush your teeth or something, did you? j/k... You're signs sound pretty interesting so far... I'm keeping my eye on you, and praying this is going to be your month!

[AJC]

jen - so that's what it is - he he he. Better clean em before we bd again or DH might run a mile

Vanaithi - af must be on her way to me too because mine is low & hard. However, I felt my cp when I was pg last time and it was low & hard then too. I think it can vary according to the time of day. I'm sorry you are feeling so down today.

[nicjay]

Hi ladies,

Just popping in to let you know that we are back from Singapore and we had a lovely time The weather was wonderful and warm and it has been horrible to come back to the cold

Unfortunately though, it was a BFN for me this last cycle with a short LP again. So we are cycle tracking again this month (its day 10 today) and will hopefully be adding some LP support - Pregnyl or progesterone pessaries. So at least this last cycle has been good because it has identified a problem that can be treated.

Sorry for the lack of personals, but there is way to many to catch up with now, will try again soon. Hope everyone is well

[plc1805]

Hey megsmum!! So happy u had a great time away but equally sorry about ur BFN -

vanaithi - don't worry honey - mine is low & hard too!!! I think AJC is right - that it depends on time of day! hun - i do understand how hard it is to want a baby so bad that you might as well bash ur head up against a wall with frustration!! Keep strong sweet!

Welcome Acria & Lea - this is such a lovely group to be a part of for all the love and support you get.

AJC - *with commercial voice* "did you know that the malt in Milo is very good for your spleen? The spleen plays an important role in early conception. A cup of milo a day is a good thing". (Did you like that? that's according to my acupuncturist - but, as with evrything, use in moderation).

jen & canary - i hear ur accents too when i read ur posts (at least what i think ur accent is depending on the area ur from).

Big hi to everyone and hoping ur having a great time in Hong Kong and that the room is rocking not cos of the earthquake

[AJC]

plc - love it! I do usually have a cup in the morn with my brekkie (cold) but I do occassionally have a warm mug at night. Interesting, maybe having a taste for milo is my body's way of telling me something.

megsmum - Glad you had a nice time in Singapore. Sorry about the BFN. I starting taking B6 this cycle for my LP. Had 10 day LP last month and I'm on 11dpo this month and temp still high, still no sign of af. Don't have any preggie feelings but I am just happy that I have a longer LP this cycle. Good luck and as you say, at least if you identify a problem you can treat it.

[mollycat]

Jen - I can look after up to 7 kids under the age of 12 kids each day with a limit of 5 under school age, at the moment I have my own son (11), three school kids (one after and two before - 8, 8 & 6) and up to 5 littlies a day, depends on the day, the youngest is 8m and the eldest is 4, I seem to have a lot of 2yo and have 11 kids on my books. My "work day" starts at 7.30am and finishes at 6pm except for Thursday when I finish at 8.30pm. Long hours, but it pays the bills. I've been doing day care since 1995 although I did have a couple of years off when I had my second son, (i had trouble ttc him and started spotting at 8w, panicked and quit on the spot, but at least I kept him). I have a couple of new families due to start in the next few weeks, hopefully most of the reno will be done by then. I have an eight seater car and we go visit other carers or parks,or play centres to escape, then I bring them home and they go to sleep along with all the noise, which is wonderful, actually I have two 2yos and the 8mo asleep now.

My temp is still being weird, I usually have temps of 36.0 to 36.4 before O (sorry don't know conversion) but they have been running at 36.7, 36.8, should be o'ing in the next few days, but don't know what will happen to them then. Really got me confused.

AJC - maybe i should swap to milo, i seem to be drinking a lot of tea at the moment, can't be too good for me. I've always enjoyed a hot milo and occasionally will have one before bedtime, lovely on cool nights.

Vanaithi - sometimes our partners just don't want to play the game, I feel that at times it must be a drain on them too, having to perform on demand, or at the right time, sometimes you just need to focus on your relationship (and if you're sneaky you can do it at O). TTC and BFN's takes a lot out of both partners in a relationship. I know my DH used to feel he was only good for one thing, we've learned that there is more to life then that and I know that he wants another baby just as much as I do

PLC - just wanted to send you some not that you need them cause you'll be complaining soon about not fitting into any of your clothes.

I have to get back to work now, the boys will be awake soon, then I have to go out to my shed and size up the kitchen we have in storage and work out just where the builders have to put in the new kitchen window. There putting my weatherboards on the walls at the moment. Noisy but exciting.

[SugarDust]

I"m not sure if i'm in the right place!

We are TTC next week as soon as AF goes away!

according to chinese calendars this month is my girl month so as soon as AF goes we will be BD like rabbits!

[AJC]

hi mellie. This thread is for people trying to conceive after miscarriage or loss 'TTCAML' , if that applies to you then welcome. If not then there might be a more appropriate thread. I think there are TTC threads and you join according to how long you have been ttc (eg I think there is a 'TTC1-6mths' thread). Good luck and I hope you get your little pink bubba soon.

[Vanaithi]

Hi ladies!

Thanks for all your support & kind words I feel much better for now...

jen805: I love what you wrote about not being able to rush perfection! Gave me a different perspective on this making babies business

AJC & PLC1805: I will have to google the cervical position now because of the varying opinions.. i checked mine at 2pm today and i couldnt find it anywhere! & it was soft & squishy in there... hehehe... wonder where it goes to? I always thought the cp would be high & soft to let the spermies get in when youre fertile & then when you're not fertile it goes hard...

Does anyone know why the cervix moves at certain times of the day???

PLC1805 & Mollycat: I would rather bash my dh's head in! haha But no worries, i told him off this morning, so that next time when i say we gotta do it then he does what he's meant to do! :P~ (My dh isnt required to dtd very often at all! So its just buggered the living daylights outta me that this could have made us miss the eggie! argh!)

HUGS & KISSES & GOOD LUCK TO ALL!

[pbstar]

hi girls

have been out of action for a few days- have been sick and felt a little down and out after AF came...anyway she is almost leaving, just packing her bags now so i am starting to feel a little better.

i have booked an appt with an acupuncturist and herbalist who specialises in fertility- i figure she must be good because the earliest appt is end of june. anyway we might get lucky before then but in any case i have something to look forward to and be positive about

i will have to read through and catch up on where everyone is at, just wanted to pop in and say a big hello first. hope everyone is well.

[Acria]

Van - I understand what you mean about Dh's not being co-operative. And I really get the feeling like I'm using him for his sperm sometimes, especially when it's clear I'm not actually turned on, etc. We decided to start TTC again last week and I'm coming up to my fertile time, so it's been a case of DTD every day atm. Monday it was great, still exciting because it had been a while. Yesterday neither of us really felt like it, but felt that we *should*, and today I surprised DH in bed when he came home from work. I suppose it's a matter of finding what works for you, and both having the same views and feelings about it. It's going to be okay for him when you're both making love 'just for the sperm', if you both understand that you are't always going to feel like it, and sometimes it's one of those thigns you're doing for love, just in a different way Wow..that was rambly of me..

Plc - glad to hear that about milo! I never knew that..just knew it was meant to have a lot of useful minerals and vitamins, and no caffiene. Extra motivation for drinking milo Always welcome.

I have no idea about my cervial position..I've never actually tried to feel it, but I feel like it would be uncomfortable for some reason. And I don't temp either -_- I'm lazy with TTC..I can usually feel for a couple of days when I'm going to ovulate, I get pains..so I tend to think 'Well, I know when my fertile period is coming'. I just hope I'm right!

Lisa xx

[AJC]

Mollycat - is there any chance you could have O'd early? Mmmm, the milo has been yum. I was off tea and coffee full stop for a while but I told myself that I need to relax so am allowing myself 1 - 2 cups per week of one or the other. Dare devil aren't I?!?! he he he

pbstar - GL with the acupuncture and herbs this month!