Hi Rozzie - I am very sorry for the loss of your baby. I hope you find comfort and understanding here with us. I found out at 20 weeks that our son Nathaniel had passed away aroun 15 weeks. We have all had losses at different stages from the 2nd trimester so most of us in here were not close to full term. So please know that you are most welcome to join us in this journey we are all on. We had chromosomal tests performed and all came back negative. My original ob after persuading from me (more like me saying - I want tests done) some blood tests on me - and my new ob (who I love!) did a very comprehensive testing - and all have come back negative. So we also have no explanation for why Nathaniel did not make it. I don't think an answer would have made it any easier - either way it doesn't change the outcome. So if they have not done tests, than know you can certainly ask for them. I have had more blood taken from me than I care to think about! One day alone I had about 16 vials taken!

Hammi - glad to hear that you have Hamish's ashes at home with you. I also have Nathaniel's and it is a great comfort to me. I don't think I will ever be ready to spread his ashes etc, as I really do like keeping him with us. Also just remember if you aren't happy with your ob...then change! I had my 6 week follow up with my ob but I already knew I was going to change, so it helped me.

Hi to everyone else.