Trying to Conceive after Late Loss, Still Birth or Recurrent Miscarriage Feb/March 08

[Katiegirl]

TM - I understand completely what you mean. I never for a moment imagined I would be somone who would fall into the 'high risk' pregnancy category, and I still find it hard to believe sometimes that it has happened. After the MC, I had so many tests done and was given so many supplements, that I started to imagine that I was going to have problems conceiving. That was so upsetting to me. It is very difficult to have to see yourself in a different light, but you need to take comfort from the fact that through all of this you remain a very strong, positive and supportive person. Big hug to you and I hope that you start to feel a bit better over the coming weeks.

[Simba]

hi TM - just wanted to send you a hug you seem to be having such a tough time and i wish there was more that i can do. i wont say i can relate because i cant at least with the fertility issues but only on a small level i can relate in the sense that life doenst always go to plan which i find i am still having trouble coming to terms with. take care of yourself.

Barbara - hope that you are doing ok.

Jo - cant wait to hear how you are going? hope all is well.

i had my scan yesterday and saw the little heart beating away. am only 7 wks 5 days which means i found out 3 wks and 4 days. didnt think that was possible to find out that early but guess you can. have been having a bit of m/s mainly in the morning and at night but am doing ok.

anyway hope everyone is doing well

sim
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[Anthonysmom]

Simba - congrats on the heartbeat. it is a magical sound.

katie - you are right we are all different now. you not having problems conceiving gives me hope. can't wait to hear about your next u/s.

TM - big hugsto you. we have all changed, and not in a good way. i always felt pretty healthy and very responsible. I got my college degree first, secured a good job, bought a home, got married, and then decided to have a baby. well we can only control so much. at work i hear about teenage moms, and drug addicted babies all the time and it is very disheartening. but Katie is right we are strong women and our time will come.

Jo - ghows it going any new news?

well today is a busy day. we have a mass for Anthony in 2 hours. Last week was his due date but the church was booked. then this evening the hospital i delivered in is having a sunset service for him. 2 in one day, i will be a mess. wish me luck.

Barbara

[tempus moriendi]

Thanks for the encouragement ladies. I'm so grateful for this site!

Anthonysmom: I'll be thinking about you at Mass today. Sending cyberhug.

[Katiegirl]

Barbara - I will be thinking of you today as well. I think it is wonderful that the hospital is having a service. Whilst it will be emotionaly for you, it is also a beautiful way for Anthony to be remembered. Take care.

I am so nervous about my u/s. I find during the days that lead up to the scans, I get very nervous and start thinking the worst. I know it is not helping me, but it is so hard to control my thoughts sometimes. I am praying so hard that all will be ok.

Simba - you mentioned in the PAL thread that you were annoyed with some reactions from relatives about your pregnancy. I understand that 100%. We have only told a handful of people, and when we told them we stressed that this is a very emotional and stressful time, so whilst we are excited we are not ready for people to make a fuss about us. I think a lot of people view our pregnancies as a 'cure' for our losses. We know that there is never a cure, but I guess it makes people feel more comfortable to think we are now 'ok'. I am nervous about telling more people as I know I will get that 'good now everything is ok' reaction from some people. It will be the same people who have asked me if the dr has given me the ok to start TTCing again - what a personal question!!!

Okay that is my rant.

TM - I am glad that you find encouragement here. I know that I should probably move out of this thread, but I really like being here with all of you. I would rather we all move through this journey together.

Jo - did you get to the dr this week? Or is it this coming Friday? I can't believe you are able to keep it from your DH! I would be so obvious that my DH would guess. I am hopeless with that sort of stuff.

[Hammi]

Hello everybody.You may have seen my post elsewhere that I recently lost my 22wk old baby boy. It's only been six days so I'm on a massive rollercoaster of emotions I didn't know I was capable of having. I'm sure you know all about it since I've just read through this thread and seen in your signatures that what happened to me was not unique at all. Although, until now, I thought it was. I really thought the 12wk mark was the 'safe' milestone.

I'm not TTC but it's inspiring to see in this thread that there is life after the devastation of a stillbirth / late loss and all these BFP really give me hope.

Although I'm not TTC, I really would like to think that I will one day hold a live baby in my arms. Can I ask when you all started TTC, especially the ladies who lost their babies around the same gestation as mine?

A bit about me, I'm married, 31 and living in Sydney. My two angel babies are my only children... so far.

[Simba]

oh Hammi so sorry to hear about your loss. i read your story and it is so terribly sad. i am so glad that you got to hold your dear Hamish and got to see all his beautiful features. although painful to do from my experience those are the precious memories that will remain with you always and you will remember him for how perfect and beautiful he looked. do all the things you need to do to remember you little boy. i have a memories box were i have put all of Lani's special things, although sad to put them all away it is nice to know that they are all kept safe and there to look at whenever i need them. i still talk to her a lot too - i find it comforting to know that she is out there somewhere listening to me.

about ttc we were adamant that we wanted to try again straight away. even while lani was still alive we talked about it. there was just such a drive in us to be parents - for us it was impossible to switch that off. as i had a c/s we had to wait a few months before we could ttc but then we were lucky and got pg the first month of ttc. everyone is different though so do what you feel is right. i am now 8 weeks pg and riding the next rollercoaster, not sure how i will ever make it though to november but hopefully my little angel will help me through.

take care of yourself hon and know that we will all be here for you whenever you need.

big hugs

sim
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