I don't think you should feel bad at all Tildy. I can't speak for everyone else but one of the reasons I came to the board was that I wanted to hear about women who had been through what I had but were able to get pregnant and have healthy babies afterwards. I think the saddest thing would be if we were all trying to get prenant and no-one was having any luck.

Of course we'll all be terribly jealous I'm sure when your bundle of joy arrives safe n sound! But we'll also be terribly excited, because every time one of us gets across the finish line, it gives us all that little bit more hope that we'll be able to do it as well. It also makes a difference because we know what you've had to face to get to this point. I find the random pregnant women in the street hard because I can't help but think 'why do you deserve to keep your baby and I don't?', I know that's not the way it works but sometimes you just can't help the way you feel.

The day after we lost Charlie, my cousin had a baby girl. My DH was really upset because she drinks and smokes and lives on KFC whereas I am a complete health freak, it just didn't seem fair. But she had actually lost a son who was stillborn close to full term several years ago. Instead of feeling angry that she had a baby girl to take home and I didn't, I chose to see her as hope of what might be in my future. Even if she isn't that healthy, she had suffered the same pain as me and I was happy she was getting her happy ending.

So Tildy, keep the good news coming, we all need it just as much as you do!