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    Hi all,

    Hope everyone is well.

    Jo - good luck for your appointment tomorrow. So glad you have lots of questions and I will be that all is OK.

    I also love charting. Though I am a little frustrated this cycle. Normally mine is pretty standard, but this month has been a little up and down. Not sure what is going on, if you want to have a look, its in my signature - all welcome.

    Tildy - I know it is hard charting, but honestly it does give you a good idea on how your body is working.

    I am very frustrated with my weight at the moment!!!! The naturopath has me on "eating for your blood group" diet and its not working - I am just putting on weight. I think I am going to go back to eating healthy and low gi (as I have PCOS, thyroid & insulin resistant).

    I am exercising every morning for 1/2 hour doing "walk about the pounds" which is quite energetic and gets a sweat up and also a 20 min walk in my lunch breaks (when its not raining!!!)

    So that I lose some of it.....

    Hope everyone has a fantastic day.



    xxx Sue xxx

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    Hi Tildy,

    I had the same as you (we're pretty much on the same cycle days!!) spotting a couple of days ago and cramps... hopefully it works out for you the same as me because this morning I got a BFP!!!! I can't quite believe it, it's only about 10DPO but I couldn't wait (actually I tested 2 days ago too!!).

    It is so odd to me that we tried for a year with no success, then as soon as the endometriosis was removed it happened, then this time it happened first time too!!! All those months of worry when it turns out I seem to be quite fertile!!!

    It's still reeeeeally early, I only got a + with first response and not the LC 10miu one so it could turn out to be a chemical pregnancy but at least I know everything's working ok. Now I'm back on the treadmill!!

    Good luck to everyone else trying!! And Jo, I'm so glad to hear everything will be OK and you're getting all the treatment possible.

    Love Rozzie

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    My charts never show ovulation even though it kind looks like I have to me. They're at 19e9cf Ovulation Charts

    They don't follow the textbook pattern like Sue's though.

    Where's Katie?

    Hi to everyone else and good luck for BFP's all around this month for those TTC.

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    Hi all - Hammi....here I am! I have been in Sydney since Wed and got back last night. I am reading though all the post in here and the preg thread trying to catch up.

    Okay where to start...

    Rozzie - that is the most understated BFP announcement I have seen - but I do understand your reluctance. Maybe when you test again you can do a bigger announcement. I wait until AF was about 4 or so days late before I tested and the first one was negative and then the next couple were very faint. It only got darker a whole week later and with one particular brand - Onestep Discover. I think it just has to be taken that a line is a line. I hope this baby sticks and that you are able to start a new journey forward.

    Hammi - I just looked at your chart - so does FF never give you a coverline or O? Your temps look ok but it is hard to know without the coverline to see what your average is.

    Tildy and everyone else charting (Sryan etc) - my last successful cycle (and please excuse if I am repeating myself) showed my O day on FF as CD11 - now I am normally clockwork and I have used Natural Family Planning to avoid pregnancy so I was aware of my fertility pattern and CM - so I decided this was wrong and kept trying and lo and behold they changed the O day to CD14 just as I had predicted. I think it is really important to use FF but also your own intuition and mucous checks. If I had stopped trying when FF said I O'ed I would not be pregnant with this little one. I know it is easier in my case as my cycle did return to some form of normalcy after Nathaniel - but I also had my naturopath saying my temps were sluggish so I was starting to worry I wasn't O'ing etc. Just listen to yourself and use FF as a tool to help. Temping IS addictive - I even had dreams where I had taken my temp and they were so vivid that when I woke I had to think about whether I had already done it or not....crazy stuff. Good luck with the TTCing and I hope you all get your BFPs soon.

    Jo - I was so worried about you before I left for Syd that I had even called my husband to say that he might need to check BB for me. I am glad to hear that the ultrasound set some mistakes right - like the heartbeat and the cord vessels. I hope all goes well today with your Ob. I have heard of low lying placentas but did not think they were a cause for concern other than affecting the chance of a natural delivery. Please try to focus on the good points they have told you and yes go in armed with a hundred questions as this will give you some peace of mind. I am praying like mad for your baby!

    As for me, I am well. I spent the last few days in Syd with my family as we went to World Youth Day. We had VIP passes to the big events so it meant I got to sit down. It was an amazing event but exhausting. I have also found that I am thinking about Nathaniel a lot of late - I think there is a variety of reason - Mel's baby Joshua has reminded me how much it hurts to lose your child, I fell pregnant with Nathaniel in July last year, and being with my family etc made me realise how much I miss him and always will. I am getting used to tears coming but they only last for a little while.

    I have been getting great movement this past week which has been a great relief for me. My family couldn't believe how big my belly has gotten - they all live in Melb and Bris so haven't seen me recently. I think when people ask when I am due they get a suprise when I say I am 24 weeks! I am starting to wonder how huge this belly will be by the end...the strange thing is I have hardly put on any weight maybe just a kilo. I am starting to get impatient for the next few weeks to fly by. I am looking forward to entering the 3rd tri as this will be a big milestone for me.

    Hugs to everyone and I hope you are all going well.

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    Rozzie - OH MY GOD that is FANTASTIC!!!!!! I am so excited for you. I think one of the problems about charting and knowing so much about TTC is that when it does happen we know sooo early!

    Katie - I am glad you had a great time in Sydney, even though I don't know Mel, I was so very sad reading what had happened...again. I can't even imagine what Mel and DH are going through, but like you said it does bring back the tears from our own losses. Congratulations on passing that 24wk mark though, the 3rd Tri will be here soon, rest easy.

    Jo - How are you travelling ??

    Hammi - hopefully your temps settle a little better for you, but they do look like they show Ov, and have a good luteal count.

    Hi to everyone else.

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    Goodness, I totally missed Rozzie's BFP. OK, low key cheering now and bigger yippees when you confirm :-)

    Katie, we might've passed each other last week! My building looks over Barangaroo where all the WYD concerts etc. were held. We saw everything from the sound checks (not fun) the week before to the Pope coming down from the Captain Cook Cruise (I wonder how they scored that!!!). I'm on the 27th floor so we just heard the deep bass sounds and muffled voices which was distracting but I did hear a very beautiful operatic rendition of Who Wants to Live Forever when I ventured downstairs. There's still loads pilgrims running around and yesterday we had lunch next to a table of monks!

    Sue, you're doing all the right things so hopefully your body will participate shed the kilos you don't want. In the Francesca Naish book that I keep quoting, she recommends rebounding which as far as I can tell is just bouncing on a mini-tramp. She says it's good for your ovaries and uterus. So of course I got one and have been using it and if you jog on the spot on it, you work up quite a sweat! Perhaps you can try that too?

    Are you counting down the weeks to Cooper's EDD with dread, Helen? I'm trying not to but it's looming like a raincloud. I take the others' advice that the time leading up to it is worse than the day itself and promise myself that I will look forward (with Hamish in my heart) after 14 Aug.

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    Thanks ladies for your wishes!!! Posting the BFP on this forum is actually one of the things I've been most looking forward to since starting TTC, I suppose because you all know the significance of it in a way other people can't.

    Hgirs, that is so true about charting, I was paying so much attention to all the signs, last time I wasn't expecting to get pregnant so was blissfully unaware until after AF was late. Now I just want the time to go already!

    Hammi, with you on dreading the EDD... I'm also dreading the birth announcement from my sister who went in to be induced last night. I'm happy for her but we were supposed to be having our bubs together... I hope it's a girl, having a boy in the family the age Edward would have been will be extra hard.

    Also, I found FF great but I don't think it correctly pinpointed my O date, it said it was 3 days after a + OPK, so I changed the settings to OPK/monitor. If I O'd on the day it said I would only be 8 DPO, unusually early for a BFP. So I agree with the others about using intuition. Best of luck.

    Anyway, hope everyone is well.

    Rozzie

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    hey guys!
    had my Ob appointment today and i am part reassured and part not. Of course i went in with all my questions most of which don't have answers as i either need to be further along and so much it seems is resting going to monash for a 2nd deatiled/specialised opinion. Just spoke to my mum in between here and the preg forum and she said she had heard bad things about monash and i said my Ob was all about natural this and that with pregnancies and birth (he does'nt like intervention unless necessary which i am a fan of) just letting the baby do its thing so if he referred me it was with good reason. They will basically decide if i need more invasive tests (an amino has been bought up -anyone had one?) as the baby is a week andf a half behind in its growth which is'nt looking good. He talked about a premmie baby starting to be looked at by 28 weeks if my situation doesnt change but that is considered worse case senario. () and a chromosonal thing has not been completely ruled out yet even tho the risk at this stage is so small.
    rozzie - i am not sending you the bouncing green smiles until you are making a huge announcement. I am quietly very excited for you! A BFP is such a mix of emotions and i did heaps of tests just to make sure! So i know how you feel. Can't wait to see more news, sending sticky vibes your way!
    katie - you are going so well and i am glad you got to see your family and share in the excitment they had over your belly. I was getting changed this morning and my son (5yrs) said that i had "one of those bellies like i am having a baby" and proceeded to rub his hand over it. I of course was like what do you mean? and he goes its getting bigger like when you are growing a baby and he walked away. (as we still have'nt told them due to what they dealt with jack) It really meakes me realise how many other people are involved again and what they see. Maybe i won't be able to keep it a secret much longer, my long winter scarves are only going to hide so much i think!
    sue - i agree with hammi -i think that you lose weight when you are meant to and that maybe you need to have a little extra right now for one reason or another. It will eventaully shift, are your clothes fitting differently as remember muscle weighs more anyway! So if you are working out, the lack of difference in weight may still be a positive!!!
    to everyone charting - i wish i could give help and opinions but i have no idea! But really hope we have some more BFPs coming onto this site soon!!!!
    take care guys!!!
    x jo

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    Hi all

    Rozzie - a big congratulations on your I am so so :. for a happy and healthy pregnancy.

    Thank Hammi & Jo for your vote of confidence in the weight loss. I am not exactly dieting, but am very conscious of what I eat and make sure I exercise.

    I find that FF predicts my exact O day (which is really good). I always go on how I feel, more than that as your O day only comes up after its done and dusted!!!! Even though mine is a pretty standard temperatures (though a bit low at rising after O this month), and I can predict when I am ovulating, I still cant get bloody pregnant!!!

    Jo I so wished that you got the reassurance you needed today . I am still praying and fingers crossed that all goes well.

    Katiegirl, I am so glad you had a good time in sydney and the best news every is that the baby is kicking away. I am so excited for you.

    To everyone I have missed - Hello and if you are trying, BFP for us all.

    xxx Sue xxx

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    Thanks Sue We're both thrilled. I feel your pain on the weight gain... I still have about 4 extra kilos from before I got pregnant and it doesn't sound like much but it's enough that NONE of my clothes fit. Losing weight when you're TTC is tricky too. When I go back to work I'll have to buy a whole new uniform just for the few weeks until I start wearing maternity uniform!!! Waste of money but so worth it

    I went to my OB this arvo (just happened to have an appointment, very good timing!) and he gave me a referral to the high risk clinic and said he'd do shared care with them so that's awesome. I'll be on blood thinning injections and aspirin and later on will get ultrasounds that monitor blood flow to the placenta, so that's good.


    My sister had a little girl, phew!!! Would have been so much worse if it had been a boy.

    Anyway, good luck to everyone!

    Rozzie

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    Hello ladies!

    Jo - I'm crossing my fingers for everything to turn out okay and for you to be able to make it through the worry and the stress.

    Sryan - be patient with your weight. Remember that natural weight fluctuations (you had a meal that was big in volume or a lot of water, you are about to have your period, muscles, hormones, etc.) make it so that day to day or even week to week weight gains don't have to mean anything. Keep up your good exercise habits and healthy eating habits and I think things will start to fall into place!

    Katiegirl - I know what you mean about dreaming about the temping and about it being addictive! When I crawled into bed last night I saw the thermometer lying there and put it in my mouth, and though "wait, why did I do that?" And during the night I dreamt that I took my temp and that it was 36.9. I woke up and thought, "Good, it's still up!" and then realized that it was just a dream. Luckily, my temp was 36.6, so it WAS still up. I know what you mean about trying to trust your instincts as well -- I keep reminding myself that the fact that my chart is hard to understand doesn't change the fact that we've been BDing consistently every 2-3 days, and that that's what worked last time. I therefore wonder if I maybe shouldn't chart, because I'm such a worrier that it seems to only serve to worsen my mental condition, and doesn't actually improve our chances... but if we end up having trouble conceiving I want to have info in hand to show the doctor.

    Rozzie -- Yay ! That is fabulous! My eyes started to tear up a little there. Yup, we do seem to be on the same cycle... lost our bubs a few days apart, spotting a few days apart... I really really hope that it'll be BFP a few days apart! I know what you mean about being relieved that your sister had a girl. My friends that had babies around and since my M/C had boys, and while I didn't know if mine was a boy or a girl, something inside me just says I'll have a girl -- and I don't want them stealing the names I've picked out!

    The spotting I had yesterday is not there today, and my temp was still up this morning, so I'm really crossing my fingers. It's still early in the day though, and I'm dreading every trip to the toilet. If the spotting returns and I get my period "on schedule" on Friday, then a lot of things seem to be pointing towards me having a progesterone deficiency...

    Have a look at my chart: 219aae Ovulation Charts . You can see how it seems a bit haywire to me. I was severely depressed and sleep deprived at the beginning of my cycle, so that might explain the severe fluctuations. CM suggests I ovulated on day 13 (and those two patches of W CM after that were probably because of the BD the days before), which would be perfect since my cycle is regularly 26 days. But FF has set my O day at 16, then changed it to 18, then changed it to "possibly 16", then changed it back to 16. So if it's my period that started already with spotting 2 days ago, plus the fact that I started bleeding already the very day I expected my period when I WAS pregnant, the fact that I didn't have much morning sickness, etc... wouldn't be good signs. I want to call the doctor and ask, because it seems like low progesterone is easy to test for and easy to fix, but I hate trying to get them to listen and take me seriously...

    We let out cat Ada out again today for the first time in a couple weeks, so I hope she comes back tonight and doesn't immediately re-do her 4-5 day disappearance!

    Big hugs to everyone!
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    Tildy,

    creepy!!! I have a 26 day cycle and AF was due Friday too!! we are totally in sync!!
    My only suggestion would be to try OPKs, they really helped me.. here's my chart 219525 Ovulation Charts. A blood test on day 21 of your cycle can tell you if you've ovulated and also if your progesterone is ok. I did one last year as part of infertility investigations.

    Best of luck and here's hoping for a BFP!!! Then we'd have the same EDD!!!

    Rozzie

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    Rozzie - I am so happy for you my love. Congratulations - savour the joy of the excitement. You have us all to support you along the way... YIPPPEEEE!!!!!!!!!

    Jo: Gee a week behind in growth is not hugely significant - but I do understand given your history that they are being cautious, try not to get too freaked out by it. I have had an amnio - it was scary - but both times I had no problems - I was sore at the entry point and worried for a few days. But that's about it - quite non eventful. I amhoping it will be for you to. When is it planned for?
    Just know that you havae a whole online community barracking for you my love...

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    Jo,
    You will be in good hands at Monash. There are some wonderful OBs there especially when it comes to high risk.
    I have also had an amnio (3 actually). About the same as Deb - a bit freaky but absolutely no problems. I found it painless and I didn't have any cramping either time. Just rest up for a few days after.

    Best of luck and big hugs,
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    Hi all

    Jo - I too am sure that they are just being extra careful this time around, can't be a bad thing.
    My DH has been away for work since Sunday and I have to say I am starting to hit a wall, I am missing him.
    Hammi - Yes, Cooper's EDD is looming like you say, and I think that is probably why I feel a little lost tonight without my DH, but on the upside I DO HAVE A FANTASTIC DS playing right here beside me, albeit getting into mischeif!! OH ****.... drawing on the wall.............

    OK I am back, yes as I was saying gorgeous.

    I am 5dpo today and doesn't help that I am over-analysizing every little twinge, but I have to say I feel soooo tired tonight. I know I know too early for any symptoms, it is probably just the sleep deprivation catching up to me from last week when DS was waking through the night.

    Anyway must head off for now.

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    Hi all,

    Hope everyone is well..... sorry too busy for personals, but I had to get this out.

    Just been at the kitchen at work and this lady who had a little girl around 3 years ago was saying "oh when I was pregnant, I still drank lots of coffee, I ate processed meat, had prawns and I think girls today go to the extreme and shouldnt worry about it"

    Man it made my blood boil..... because I dont drink coffee (as it reduces fertility) and if I was pregnant I wouldnt eat the wrong things which could harm my baby!!!!
    I just wouldnt take that risk.

    I think people who dont have issues with getting pregnant and holding onto their miracle do not understand what it is like to lose a child and I would do anything, anything at all, to have a miracle which I can hold.

    Sorry to vent all.

    xxx Sue xxx

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    Sue, you are so right. Everyone's situation is different, and some of us might have to be a little more careful. And even if I don't HAVE to be, god, I certainly am going to be! Stuff that I was half-assed about before is strictly by-the-book now!

    Plus, her thinking makes my blood boil as a mathematician. Sure, her baby might have come out fine -- but does that mean EVERYONE'S does if they ignore all the doctors' advice? Of course not! There was a woman at my old job that I didn't like too much who was trying to pressure me into having wine when we were out at a restaurant with work for Christmas. She was like, "I drank a glass of wine here and there when I was pregnant, and my little girl is just fine!" I wanted to say "You never know, if you hadn't had wine, she might have turned out smart."

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    hey girls!
    Hope you are all well in here and those charts that i can't understand are giving you some great news!! lol!
    Monash have booked me in for the 7th of aug, which seems like an eternity as i really want some answers now and it is weighing heavily on my mind. I have decided to see a natropath as i figure anything may be of help right now and i need to feel like i am heading in a more positive direction. Bubs is still moving every now again and i feel like i really have to savour every one of those movements right now. I just don't think i can go through anything bad again -i am trying to be positive but i want to be realistic at this stage too, kinda prep in case. My DH is gonna drop the kids at Child care and school that morning and mum has offered to come but i think she may make my nerves about 100 times worse, which i don't need. I have enough of my own. So we'll see...
    Sue - I am with you on the selfishness of comments and behaviour by people when they are preg. i have been thinking of a friend who smoked and drank EVERDAY (alcohol was wine but a few glasses every night!) and who did'nt seem concerned, her DH smokes too and they had this perfectly healthy little girl who is just adorable. But they did'nt care and throughout this i have been thinking about it and it has really irratated me, I do all the right things to, yet for the 2nd time things just don't seem to be going my way! I would do anything to mak sure this baby is ok, i even had a customer at work who said in front of her daughter that she should never been allowed to have kids as it just has'nt worked out for her etc and i wanted to slap her!! How awful for this little girl to hear that???? rant over!
    hgirs - your post made me smile about your DS. Sending you loads of cyber as you sound like you need them, hope your DH is home really soon for you. My DH used to do alot of night work and he could be gone for 24 hrs literally or i would'nt see him for a weekend at a time due to work and it does start to play on you after a while!
    angel babies- thanks for your hype about monash, the lady on the phone made me feel incredibly at ease and i feel very comfortable going there now. It IS good to hear from someone else though that has been with them - its been hard, this will be my 4th diffrent ultrasound place now!(2nd specialist one!)
    rozzie - updates??????????????? thinking of you!!!!!
    tildy - i am praying for your period to be missing on friday! hope all signs are pointing that way!
    take care guys! Thanks for all you support!
    x jo

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