Theresa, you're always in my thoughts, I'm sending you massive cyber hugs
Laney, I'm so sorry for what should have been a festive family gathering ( although hard for you, I can imagine with your brother's baby there ) over the Christmas holidays. What a sad way to spend Christams day, I'm sorry hun. I think sometimes some family members ( especially my mum in my case ) expect us to be 'over' our losses too soon, and that really hurts. My mum and I said some hurtful things to each other over the last couple of months, and although I know she still thinks the way she did at the begining, we have agreed to disagree and I told her once again 'you haven't lost a baby, I have, so I don't expect you to understand'. We are better now, but sadly we don't talk about Joshua as often now, and that hurts.
Sometimes we can't count on our families to know what to do, or say what we would like them to say, but I put it down to them not being in our shoes and therefore not understaning what we're going through. We are the ones that have lost our precious angels, our dreams. Sending you big hugs hon
Sue, that must be so exciting to feel your baby move, that's one thing that I could never get my head around when I was pregnant and one of my close girlfriends told me about how she used to see little feet/hands poking through the skin !!! Take care hun, fingers crossed for a stress free, easy labour in May and a healthy bub
Tildy, thanks for your very kind thoughts. I know what you're saying about your mum....don't get me started !
Girls ( for those who are still finding it really hard to deal with their loss ) I'm reading a book called Layla's Story by Vanessa Gorman about a woman who loses her daughter hours after birth. Very powerful and honest book ( too honest sometimes ! ), but it's such a beautiful book that as I'm reading it, I always have a tear running down my cheek ( without even realising it ). Highly recommend it, it deals with issues such as other people not knowing how to deal with our loss. I have nodded to so many things while reading this book ( I haven't finished it yet ) I can really relate to it on so many levels.
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