Lan, that's rough that you were the default babysitters... a bit of sensitivity never goes astray but we can't choose family. I'm hoping your boobs get nice and sore and you and Paula are due in the same month.
The third trimester has hit me like a ton of bricks, even if it's not meant to start for another week or two. My lower back hurts, my feet hurt and I have indigestion for the first time in my life, it kept me awake last night and was gross. But I love it all still, and don't complain (except for that just then). Adding to Sue's thread about people saying 'just wait until' I'm the same, I'm not worried about pain or discomfort or getting fat (and I really am getting fat!) or even the pain of labour, all that matters is that the baby comes safely, and I think unless you have had trouble having babies you can't understand it. I know first time round I was worried about labour etc.
Paula, I went to a psychic once with a friend, and both our psychics were way off... but it was a psychic convention and I think it was pretty crude. I have heard some amazing stories though of people I know and what they were told so I remain open minded because even though I'm a sceptical person I accept there are many things we don't know or fully understand in this world.
I'm a little sad too to be saying goodbye to 2008... I don't feel I can celebrate the new year. DH's friend invited us over for NYE and I said I just don't feel up to it so it will be just the two of us. Celebrating feels like we're glad 2008 is over, and like you said Lan it was a painful but amazing year, and also I don't want to act like 2009 will make everything better because it's just more time passing and we never know what's around the corner. Also I'm not looking forward to going back to work in a week... but then I have a scan next Wednesday so I both look forward to and dread next week, can't win!!!
Paula, that's spooky ( good spooky ! ) about the psychic saying she can see a girl in 2009...all you have to do is wait and see, and when it happens you know she can really see into the future and you can go and see her again ! Fingers crossed for 2009 hey ? I think there are good psychics, and really crappy ones when they try to prod you for info.
I went to see a psychic 4 weeks ago ( I see only 2 women, alternating, about every 2 years or so ) and this one straight away told me I had a miscarriage recently..I almost fell off my chair. She said to get rid of that fibroid ( which I am in 3 weeks ) and said she can see another baby in 2009/2010. Here's hoping...
Lan, sore boobies, yey !! Hope they stay sore ( not that's very pleasant, but it's good ! ) and you get a BFP soon
Sue, you poor thing, my friend had to go to work for one day today ( we're both back on 12/01 ) and she called me today and she was suicidal ! Poor thing...it's horrible going back even for a few hours when you're on holidays..
Rozzie, I know what you mean about being sore and tired in your 3rd trimested, I never made it that far, but my next pregnancy ( I hope... ) I'll be saying, bring it on ! Don't care how uncomfortable I am, the bub will be so worth it.
Diana, I'm working on my mum, but sometimes it's like teaching a child about life..IUKWIM. You'd think she'd be more understanding, since she's had 2 kids of her own ! I hope you get that book, it's beautiful.
Jo, yay for the bigger room ! Good luck for your next u/s .
Big hello & hugs to the rest of you loverly girls.
Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for their kind words during this difficult time. I am really struggling with it all and have not been coping too well. I have never experienced such turmoil and heartache. Sorry for the lack of personals but I just don't have the energy right now.
Thanks again everyone - your support has gotten me through this Christmas period. xxx
Oh hun, I just want to give you a huge hug and tell you I wish I could make this heartache go away...It's just so awful to miss your little boy, he should be here. I often wonder about Joshua and what stage he'd be at, and how big he'd be now. My gut feeling is that if I was still pregnant, he would be born late Dec early Jan as my firbroid was taking a bit of room down there..Yet, there is no baby to hold and I feel really empty inside. I have Joshua's little place in my house, and he's surrounded by every angel I could find, I bought him 'Baby's First Christams' snow ball , a fireplace thingy that lights up and has a baby's christmas stocking hanging on it, and a rocking horse with a little teddy with a santa's hat on it, I have 2 photo's of Joshua and my last purchase this christams was a musical snow dome that plays twinkle, twinkle little star. Phew....the list goes on ! It makes me feel good buying little things for him ( you don't want to know what I bought for the christams tree ...) and although my DF thinks I'm going mad sometimes, I don't care. I feel good doing it, and I feel close to my little angel. I also have conversations with him in my head and then when I go to bed I talk to him and say a little prayer for him and ask my relatives to look after him until I get there, and again, I feel so close to him.
So, acknowledge your beautiful son as much as you can, because even though he never opened his eyes here on earth like Joshua, he was very much here and he is very real. One day when it's our time to go, we will be reunited with our little boys and we can give them these huge hugs and kisses and we'll never have to be apart again.
I'm sending you lots of love and suport and strength Theresa, I truly hope your suffering gets less and less each day, and you are at peace.
Well I had an Ob appointment today and I got to hear bubs kicking away and a nice strong heartbeat. We also went through the morphology scan and the Ob was saying everything was good.
Oh and I found out today that the placenta is sitting at the front of my stomach and thats the reason I cant feel bubs all the time and only when I lay on my side and bub is on its side that I feel her.
I will have to wait a little longer to get movements all the time!!! bugger.
Rozzie - I also have a few little/dont care issues as well. My hips at night are a killer and I am getting indigestion as well - and I am only in my 2nd trimester!!! I spoke to the Ob this morning about the hips and he just said "wait a bit longer and it will get worse!!!).
Beata - what do you have to go through when you have your fibroids removed????
Zachary's Mum - I am so sorry you are going through a rough time. It is so understandable and I am glad that if we helped a little, thats what this website is all about. to you....
Yay for 3rd trimester troubles Rozzie. I can't believe it is only days away for you. I remember getting heartburn for the very first time when I was PG with Ethan and it completely freaked me out. It took me awhile to realise what it actually was!!
No matter what is said about 2008 it has certainly been eventful for all the right and wrong reasons. I am choosing to use NYE to express gratitude. Rather than celebrating the end of 2008 or the beginning of 2009 I have decided to just use the time to reflect on everything I am grateful for in my life. Which in spite of the horrors of this year is quite a lot.
I hope you can all find something to smile about on NYE and that 2009 brings us all our long awaited earth babies.
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and tell you I wish I could make this heartache go away...It's just so awful to miss your little boy, he should be here. I often wonder about Joshua and what stage he'd be at, and how big he'd be now. My gut feeling is that if I was still pregnant, he would be born late Dec early Jan as my firbroid was taking a bit of room down there..Yet, there is no baby to hold and I feel really empty inside. I have Joshua's little place in my house, and he's surrounded by every angel I could find, I bought him 'Baby's First Christams' snow ball , a fireplace thingy that lights up and has a baby's christmas stocking hanging on it, and a rocking horse with a little teddy with a santa's hat on it, I have 2 photo's of Joshua and my last purchase this christams was a musical snow dome that plays twinkle, twinkle little star. Phew....the list goes on ! It makes me feel good buying little things for him ( you don't want to know what I bought for the christams tree ...) and although my DF thinks I'm going mad sometimes, I don't care. I feel good doing it, and I feel close to my little angel. I also have conversations with him in my head and then when I go to bed I talk to him and say a little prayer for him and ask my relatives to look after him until I get there, and again, I feel so close to him.
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