Hi Judy,
I am so sorry for your losses, I know all too well what it is like to have a m/c. There is always that question of what wouldve my baby looked like, (in my case) what was it, a girl or a boy???? Many, many questions.....then there is the questions of "WHY ME!", it doesnt seem fair.
In a way I was glad that my babies were to be taken from me in the first trimester as to lose a baby that you have had growing, kicking, hiccupping inside you for months only to be told that your baby has passed would be so overwhelming. You and others that have lost babies later in pregnancy are very strong women and I praise you all for your strength.
Oh and btw, that sonographer needs to be reported to someone, how inconsiderate! When I had my last u/s (due to spotting) my DP asked her where the baby was and she just ignored him, needless to say there was no baby as such, well not one that was recognisably a baby, but she couldve pointed that out to him!
I get the same thing as you about having the kids at home too, I mean I have 5 H&H children whom I love to bits, but the yearning to have another baby is so strong and was so devistated when I lost my last baby to my DP of 2 years (this wouldve been his first bub too).
Anyway, enough rambling, I hope that all goes well for you and that you get some answers and end up having that precious little bubba in the very near future.
Look after yourself and I will have my fingers crossed for you.
All the best
Lindy.