thread: TTC after Late Loss, Recurrent Miscarriage or Stillbirth #2 2010

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  1. #1
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    Feb 2010
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    Hello lovely ladies
    Chez - I agree with Dory and Gigi wholeheartedly. You and your DH obviously haven't reached this decision lightly and I say well done you. It must feel good to have a plan and way forward. I know I always feel better (lighter perhaps) with some sort of plan. Reading your post made me think of those donors and I just have to say what amazing women I think they are! They are providing such an awesome gift.

    Gigi - I hope you caught that egg! You sound really positive. I take a lot of stock of what happens in our dreams. Too many things have happened that have come from my dreams - but that is another story. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you and will be stalking you to hear any news.

    Thanks for all of the postitive vibes everyone. I have been biding my time hoping to provide some good news but ahhhhh it was not meant to be. AF has found its way to me again (boohoo!) A 21 day cycle - I wish my body can sort itself out! I think AP has helped a lot though as AF has been nice and red so far (sorry for TMI). Not too bummed though as I prepared myself better this month for the disappointment. I am also sworn off POAS after this cycle. I did get my hopes up at 13 dpo when temp was still high....nothing worse than seeing that single line.....

    I have been kind of worried lately about Asherman's syndrome (uterine scaring) which was mentioned to me by my consultant after my last ERPC as he said he did have to be more agressive to get the last of the placenta. At least I am having periods but last month's brown period really worried me so I have decided to go to see a specialist here. Even if it just puts my mind at ease, it will be money well spent - DH agrees. I know I am going to be packing it as I don't know what I will do if he finds anything - the last thing I want is more surgery but I don't want to bury my head in the sand either. And it is easier to get it sorted earlier rather than later and whilst I am in London. Maybe I am just being a hypochondriac (there are enough in my family!).

    Hello to Dory, Powelly, ChrisW, Kateo and Tess. Hope you are all OK! Babydust to you all.

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    Jun 2007
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    Oh Suz..Bummer hun. I am sorry it is a BFN this month.
    Happy that this AF is 'appearing' a better colour though. That has to be good. You must be healing well. I hope your specialist finds nothing to be concerned about. Will be thinking of you. Hypochondriac...no chance hun. You are a level headed chicka. Feelings about things like this are justified and normal. Good on you for being brave. xoxoxo i hope i have good news for you too soon. xoxo

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    Aug 2009
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    Susie - sorry about the bfn.... but I am really liking your description of AF. My TCM practitioner says that is a good sign of getting the uterine lining/endometrium in good shape...... so good work, despite the shorter cycle. You know a shorter cycle means more BD'ing? He he.... I am being a little saucy here.

    I think it's a good idea to get a second opinion.... no point ignoring your fears. Knowledge is power. Best to deal with it head on. I am so proud of you. And your DH for being so supportive. I know you'll be scared, but when you have your second opinion, you can then talk about it with your Dr and come up with a plan, if one is needed. Fingers crossed no special plan is needed and you get your two lines this cycle.....

    I don't think you're a hypochondraic either. I was worried about Ahsermen's syndrome too, amongst many many things. To be honest, I think exploring as many optopns andeven if all you do if get to cross them off the list (and not get any other real answers), is part of the greiving and healing and looking to the future process.

    BTW your DS must be coming up to his second birthday this month or has he already celebrated the big day?

    We met a couple at one of our classes who are expecting twins. Both DH and I were upset when we first found out, but then we were both nervous for them, hoping that things would go well for them. I just got an email and they are now 27 weeks and their identicial twin girls are just going so well. It really made me feel so happy for them. I know they had been trying for a while and went through IVF for this pregnancy, so their journey hasn't been easy. We haven't shared ours yet, it just didn't seem right to. But it's amazing how other people's good news can make me feel happy and sad at the same time. Happy for them but sad that things didn't work out differently for us.... everone in here knows those feelings all too well.

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    Feb 2010
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    Thanks for your support and understanding Dory. I have an appointment with the specialist next Thurs and I understand he can tell fairly accurately with a 3D ultrasound if there is any scarring so no need to go through a HSG (if all looks good from scan). I am going to ask him to check my lining as I'll be about cd12. I am feeling less worried as this AF progresses but a big AOK from him will stop my mind churning!!

    My gorgeous DS turns 2 on the 29th! Thanks for asking. Gosh time flys. I was watching some video footage the other day of when he was a baby and he couldn't control his limbs...so adorable and made me remember those early days. You really do just forget them. Go buy a camcorder Dory if you don't have one!!

    Knowing everything I now know about twin pregnancies, Dory, (too much knowledge is scary sometimes) I would have felt the same about that couple too. Glad to hear everything is going well for them.
    FX to some BFP's in here this month!!

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    Feb 2010
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    PS - your sauciness is from your BD drought (lol!)

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    Aug 2009
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    Susie - experience is a harsh teacher....

    GL with your appointment Thurs. I had both ultrasound & HSG. HSG was not as bad as I thought it might be and also got my tubes flushed at the same time ( specialist called it similar to a grease and oil change and that in his experience those bfp's often come within a few cycles of the grease and oil change.... he was spot on for us).

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    Jul 2010
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    Sory I haven't posted for a while. We've been away...........say no more.....had a lovely lovely break........now I have a tww ......I will post better when I'm not teary and able to think better.....
    thinking of you all
    K

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    Dec 2008
    Melbourne, VIC
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    *sneaks in*

    Kate, I'm glad you've had a lovely break......big hugs hun, I hope you're smiling soon again. GL in your 2WW, I have everything crossed for you hun .

    Hiya to everyone, hope you're all going well. GL for those in the TWW , wishing you lots of and and sorry for those with BFNs....hope that there will be a BFP for you soon!!!

    Beata xxx

    *sneaks out*

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    Jun 2007
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    Kateo, welcome back sweety and wish you all the luck this month xoxo

    Suz, Good luck for tomorrow hun xoxo

    Dory, love that mood you are in hun, you vixen! You wouldn't have a scratch that needs itching would you?

    Moi, CD 21 today and about 12-13dpo...I am getting very close to the end here. xoxox

    P.s. Dory, When are you going to get your avi done hun? Can't wait to see what it looks like. xoxo