Hi cmeglles

OMG - I can't believe your MIL said that to you! And when she has suffered loss herself, how could she be so thoughtless and selfish? Congratulations on remaining composed and saying what you did. I don't think I could have reacted as calmly as you did, and your loss has been so recent . I can completely understand your concern about seeing her again on the weekend for an early Christmas. I know you are very upset at the moment but perhaps you could try speaking to her on the phone and let her know that you are very upset by her comments. Maybe she was trying to express herself but didn't do it so well. Yes, people do say some thoughtless things, often when they feel upset themselves and don't know what to say, so they say something that makes themselves feel better and forget about the message that is being received. If you have an otherwise good relationship with your in-laws I would suggest you try to either work through this with her by explaining how YOU are doing and feeling and that YOU need HER support. Otherwise try to forget it and move on, but that will be very difficult if you are anything like me - I'm an elephant and never forget those sorts of things.

I really hope you are able to get through this. Each day can be so hard without having to put up with thoughtless cr@p like that. Sending you lots of love and babydust.
oxo