ok girls i need you help, we have bought our wedding forward by 6 weeks, its now going to be the 1st of november, but i have been feeling very guilty lately as i keep thinking that the money that i am going to be spending on our wedding could be used for ivf, so this is where i need your opinion. do you think its rude of me to ask our guests to pay for there own meal?? i will pay for the bar so they wont have to worry about buying drinks or anything, but if i get them to pay for there food it will save me anywhere between $2000 - $3000 and then that money can go towards my ivf?? so do you think that this would be ok?? as i wont be having a wishing well or getting presents, this would be our present from them if they buy there own meals???

ok be honest let me know what you think??

i have been to 2 weddings now where we had to pay for our own meals, and i didnt mind, but i know some of my guests might not think the same way ( there old and like tradition)

also what do you think is a good amount to put on the bar?? there will be around 70/80 guests attending wedding ( i think) i was thinking around $2000 maybe $2500?? do you think thats ok or do you think maybe $3000 to be safe?? but then i think my god $3000 is alot of money just for people to drink and then wee out lol iukwim?? exspecially when dp doesnt drink and i probably wont be drinking much on the night anyway.

ok look forward to hear from you all

take care