Madelon - your MIL sounds EXACTLY like mine. Sometimes I'll buy things for Amy and tell her and she'll say "I've already bought that, you should have just taken the one at my house" and I think "If you'd TOLD me you had bought all this stuff for Amy and were hoarding at your house then I wouldn't have bought it!!!!!". Apparently she's bought Amy clothes and she's got them at her house and hasn't given them to us yet. I don't know whether she's keeping them there so that if she has Amy to mind at her place she can dress her in those clothes or what.....I don't get it. But I'm not leaving Amy at her place for a while yet, especially overnight mainly cos sometimes she gives me the feeling that she thinks Amy is her daughter or something. She's so obsessed. She really does need a life (in the nicest possible way). Amy still gets minded at our house. I know it's nice and all but we're not that broke that we need her to buy EVERYTHING. She was the same before Amy was born. I don't mean to complain but it starts to get a bit weird after a while. Anyway, after all that ramble, I just wanted to say that I TOTALLY understand what you are saying. Seriously your post could have been about my MIL!!