Babies Born June 16th - 30th 2008

**satya** · January 2nd, 2009, 09:58 AM

Thanks. I may have over reacted a little. He's back at the house and we are trying to sort things out. Looks like there could be hope. I am over reacting to things big time these days. There are two ladies in my mums group who are ready to walk out on their partners at the moment so I'm starting to wonder if we are all just still adjusting to motherhood & getting used to the fact that our partner's (for us three anyway) aren't helping us with bubs as much as we'd have liked them to. Anyway all is well in the household today. Brock's tooth is feeling really sharp & he's continuing to be really good. The dribble is driving me nuts. It's also making his eczema flare up & he's starting to chuck more often again. His crawling is getting a little faster. I really must baby proof the house and get a gate to keep him out of the kitchen.

**MummyDuck** · January 4th, 2009, 03:09 PM

Satya: I hope you and DF have sorted things out. DF and I had weeks of couples counselling after Taylor was born and I can tell you it was hard and often caused more trouble then what were were having before we started them. Our arguements peaked in the weeks we had counselling but we stopped in October or November I think and we havent had one fight since. I think adjusting to a new family is a HUGE part of instability for the first while, my friend went through the same thing as me. I think that sometimes so much focus is taken away from your relationship and its all put on the baby that you forget how to deal with each other, during fights and forget to cherish each other when you get a moment alone...... after awhile if you cant stop you just 'live' together...... does that make sense.

Livy: Thats terrible about your friend, such a shock and so quickly. Its not the most sensitive thing to say but its a story like that when I thank my lucky stars that when I got Taylors injection last week I also remembered to have my cervical cancer vaccine too. My condolences.
Christmas is a horrible time, it takes so much energy out of you. I was actually thinking that next year we should have Xmas at our place but not after seeing my families this year LOL.

I want to see Benjamin Button, thanks for the heads up. I would have been looking at my watch every 10 minutes half way through it wondering when I would be able to get pick up Taylor.

Well not a whole lot to report on this end. I'm beginning to wonder if Taylor has hayfever and thats the cause of her sniffles and constant sneezes. Its quite funny because Ill sneeze 4 times in a row then she will start as well.

We got 6 month pixifotos of Taylor and I started to feel dizzy while picking out the photos we wanted that I rushed through them and ended up buying 2 sets of all of them and the cd..... idiot.... doesnt matter its paid for now and Im sure we can give some away. She doesnt smile at strangers so she looked a bit stunned in some of the photos.

Back at work on Wednesday..... what is it with people looking down at me for going back to work. At least its not full time. But if I have to politely smile back at one of those 'you should be staying home' looks or one of those 'oh they take children that young at childcare' or 'oh you wont be looking after her, where will she go' comments I think I will cry. I dont want to go back to work, but for so many different reasons I have to....... I want to spend as much time with DD as I possibly can but I also want her to have a SISTER LOL and buy a house and open a trust fund for her and give her swimming lessons and so on and so on. Spending time with her was my top priority which is why I am working 3 days instead of full time, but no one wants to listen to my story - not that I should have to defend myself to anyone - so now you guys had to listen to it lol.

Anyways Im exhausted so Im off. Hope everyone had an non-eventful happy new year.

**satya** · January 11th, 2009, 07:23 PM

Smudgies mum - It would be lovely if we lived in a perfect world and all mums who wanted to stay home could do so. I really don't want to go back but if I don't we would lose our house so back I go. I have to go full time as at the moment my boss is only offering 30 hours or 40 hours. 30 hours means paying for 4 days of day care which is more than a full week so full time it is.... for now. If things don't work out with DF & I, I have decided I will quit work and concentrate on being mum - the house would have to be sold & I'd just rent. I'd go back to work part time when he went to school. So I guess, if it doesn't work out there is a silver lining. Things are still very tense in our household & I honestly don't feel that confident about things. Will have to wait and see what happens.

Brock is now crawling quite quickly so it's getting harder to keep up with him. I've also got a recurring problem with shoulder pain which has got worse since giving birth & picking him up all the time isn't helping. The doc can't find anything wrong with my shoulder at all so have to put up with it.

Brock is now starting to be more awake at night & he's been up til about 9.30 every night for about a week. I keep trying to put him down but he's just way too awake. I think I'll really like this though once I'm back at work as at least I'll get to see more of him - he used to go to sleep at 7-7.30.

**MummyDuck** · January 12th, 2009, 06:02 PM

Satya: I am very sorry to hear things havent improved yet. I know its hard going back to work and maybe I am just being spoilt. Things are tense now here coz to be honest I resent Dave, well less Dave and more his boss, As soon as someone mentions Taylor at work I get upset. We looked into putting Taylor into Kids on Collins because I am literally across the road and I could visit at lunchtimes and I wouldnt be watching the clock and feeling so rushed to get home and see her but when I spoke to them today they were so vague about how long the waiting lists were and numerous other details. Anyway, Im going to look into doing family day care, The course (unfortunately because I started working I wont qualify anymore for the government freebie) is about $1500 and I can do it from home. The outlay and our rent will be tax deductable and because I would be doing it everyday I would actually earn more money and the benefits tax wise are another bonus. Even if I only took in 2 kids (the limit is 4 plus Taylor) I would earn slightly more then now and get the benefit of tax deductable rent, toys, food, computer, internet. Its just really getting me down now being with her. Its been made worse because she had just woken up when I came to pick her up the other day and she was screaming, as soon as I picked her up she smiled. I cant imagine how she feels waking up without mummy or daddy there to say hello. She just doesnt understand that we will be there soon.

Anyways enough dreary stuff. Taylor is on the move too.... and she wants anything except her toys. Our shoes, my computer, the heater, the power cords, the highchair or the jolly jumper frame. Time to kiddie proof the house!!!