Good afternoon girls... just back from yet more Chrissy shopping... nearly all done now...I'll do the final bit on Saturday so that I meet my goal of geeting it all done in November so I can enjoy December more.

Simone: Hope the trip to the doctors went well. I read the linked thread too. I'm seeing a bit of a pattern here: bad stuff happens when you lend your car to your DH. If you have separated he needs to get his own. You also need to keep your finances separate. I probably shouldn't comment because my DH and I have never been through a trial separation before but it seems to me your DH is taking advantage of your good nature. I also think you might do better moving back to Perth to be closer to your family. What are the legal obligations regarding the children? Simone, at the end of the day you need your own car at your disposal 24/7. And you also don't need to be spending your money filling up your car with petrol driving your DH around everywhere. I guess this must be confusing for the DHS... are you separated or not? They would pay you more if you were divorced and single I guess. At the moment you are being an emotional and financial crutch for your DH... you are also giving him the freedoms of single life... and the luxury of being able to sleep through at night at his dad's place without being woken by the kids. Sorry if I seem harsh but some hard choices need to be made. You KNOW we all care for you Simone and never mind your vents but you need to work out what you want and what is best in the long run. If you love your DH then you need to tell him and if he loves you too then he needs to move back in and fufill his responsiblities. If he doesn't then you need to go back to WA and be closer to your family. You'll still be able to have Junies meetups with the girls over there I've known your for nearly a year now darl and really want to see you and your kids happy. Please trust that my advice has come from the right place... you're in my thoughts (((hugs)))

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