funny you mention the food as i am a person who has no calcium either< but did take multis before ttc"ing this time< so yeah who knows lol< but i am happy that mason will have a brother to hang out with and two older brothers to learn from(including nephew there)
its damn hard financiallly when you start to consider things isnt it< but i know my bil and sil have six kids between them and they all do ok and i guess you just work it out as you go and there is nothing saying you cant have a break between this two to let things improve a little first
good luck with all that happens anyways