hey kim - apparently it isn't a secret - there is actually fact in the madness. its all to do with timing. have you heard of the billings method? its a form of contraception that is all about knowing your cycle, and what your body is doing at a particular time, and while it is used as a "preventative method" there is a whole section about concieving. AND... now I'm not sure how much truth there is in this one but I have been told that men who wear boxers as opposed to undies have a higher incindince of fathering boy babies... like I said I don't know how true or not that one is but - I conceived Nathan after his father started wearing boxers all the time, and Aston's father only ever wears boxers. so.... who knows. As for the billings method, it was how I concieved Nat - ( remember I said in a previous post that he was the only baby that I "planned". Anyway - just a little bit of trivia to pass on... Oh my goodness look at the time. I really need to learn how to fall asleep again...do you think there is a sleep school for mummies that have forgotten how to sleep????