hi jaz- that sounds like a beautiful idea to do that with chloe's ashes. yes i still get upset when i think about Vader. i was looking through some photos of him the other day actually and i got all teary. i try to think of him in a positive way though because i know he absolutely loved his life with us and loved living here. we rescued him from a guy who didn't want him and paid him no attention and then he came here and was absolutely spoilt so i feel good about that. he is buried in our back garden and the people who lived here before us also buried their beloved dog sasha here too so we actually have 2 dog graves here (it's an acre so they're quite spread out!)
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noni- sorry you're having such a hard time. do you ever put asha in bed with you just so you can cuddle up together and get a bit more sleep?