sorry can't remember exact details but wanted to post seeing as u have posted something personal I thought it fair to share!

we dtd about 2-3 weeks after ds was born and I don't remember it really hurting but it wasn't the best ever iykwim.

Give yourself time your body has been through a lot and you have a young baby!! You're adjusting and tired and redefining your relationship as co-parents etc and it does take time to find that connection again. However long it takes is fine, take it slow, maybe get some good lube and if you feel at any point that u need some extra advice maybe chat to ur gp about it, I mean if you feel there is a physical issue