Ohh Susannah, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll start by saying I haven't experienced a miscarriage, so perhaps I'm out of line...I don't know your MIL's background, but I know my mum and MIL would struggle to know what to do too, because of the way things were when they were growing up and having children - that is, the expectation was to have a period of grieving and then move on. My mum grew up on a farm with 6 brothers and sisters, so I know she would struggle (although try hard) with understanding someone's need for time and counselling and all that. She also might try to bring my mind to future events, like Christmas, to try and give me a diversion. She would think it was helping to not mention it and talk about other things. Am I making sense?

I don't know your family, and you definitely could have done without 'what's wrong'. But I wonder if that's their attitude because that's how they've been taught to deal with personal tragedy.

(Munchy...I'm not sure your Inlaws fit into the 'trying to help' category, sorry. Unfortunately many people just don't understand the power of their words.)

All the best everyone with your families in the future.