After 12 months TTC, hubbie and I were thrilled to learn I was pregnant recently. With very few pregnancy symptoms, the first 12 weeks had been uneventful. We couldn't wait for our first ultrasound (u/s). The day before the u/s, I noticed a small amount of brown bleeding after bike riding (and initially wondered if the bike riding was the cause). Light bleeding and mild cramping continued the next day, so we were feeling a bit worried.

At the 12 wk u/s, we learned that the gestational sac had stopped developing at 8 wks and there was no sign of a fetus (we later read that this is called a 'blighted ovum').

Following the brief u/s, we were instructed to go home and the doctor would call us later that day. All we were told was that there was no fetus. No counselling services were offerred and we were ushered out the door with a farewell of "see you next time", as women in the waiting room looked on in silence. The clinic clearly was ill-equipped to address adverse outcomes. The experience felt humiliating at such a vulnerable time for us. I hope others never have to experience this.

I'm now waiting at home to miscarry 'naturally' and may have to have a curette if it doesn't happen in the next few days. I have mild bleeding and occasional mild-moderate cramping. Would others recommend I have a curette immediately, or wait and see if I miscarry? How will I know if I've completely miscarried or still need a curette anyway?

Thanks for your advice,
mjs

P.S. We know that miscarriage is common but it doesn't make it any less painful right now. So many tears and such sadness surrounding the sudden end to our hopes and dreams for this 'little one'. We will continue to TTC in the future, but will take time to grieve and look after eachother, emotionally ,first.