Big hugs my love this is a sad and confusing time that I understand too well... :hugs:

I miscarried naturally 3 times, one of those miscarriages was quite painful but it was fine with heat packs and some mersyndol for the pain... I didn't require a d &C with those 3 pregnancies. The first day is the most painful and then it's really like a heavy period.
I can't help you choose and I think everyone has an opinion on what was best for them... I think personally that there is something quite therapeutic about waiting for a natural miscarriage - it seems somehow complete (to me). I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks (my baby had died at 14 weeks) -- for her I had a D & C and I found it too surreal. I found out she had flown away, went to sleep pregnant and woke up not pregnant. I found it really difficult...

I am thinking of you and we are all here to support you whatever your choice is. Perhaps just wait and see how things go over the next few days?

Lots and lots of love as you go through this time...