I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't believe that they didn't offer any counselling. I was offered it at the hospital I went to and I was only around 6 weeks when it happened. I didn't go because I didn't feel I needed it, as by then I'd already found BB and knew I'd get a lot of support here. I think if I were you I'd get the D&C done as then it would all be over and done with. Things have obviously been sitting there for about four weeks without m/c naturally so who's to say how long it could take til it happens. Take care.