My SIL told me recently that our losses (she has lost two) must have been harder than what her other SIL went through with a blighted ovum cos it was "just a bunch of cells" - for 13 weeks, until that blighted ovum was discovered her SIL was pregnant, and she went through hell when she realised what had happened. needless to say, i very nicely, but VERY firmly told my SIL she was wrong, that a loss is a loss, and that there is no comparison cos the pain is identical...